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User Topic: Colossal Waste of Brain Power
WhereIsHome
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When you are in a betrayed shoes.

If you put us all in same room I bet we could draft plan for world peace and maybe discover some cures for diseases while we are at it.

I know it's my life and my families life so I have to do my best to make the right decision but it is all consuming thinking, dwelling, etc... I cannot wait till one day when I will be using brain cells for something that will be happy, positive, and enrich my or my families life. That will be a good day indeed!


I was betrayed - 39
Wayward Wife - 38
D-Day1 May 2011 bought her lies didn't get confirm on 1 till dday2.
D-Day2 Good Friday 2014...Good Friday have to laugh a little on that one.
Daughter #1 Stillborn
Daughter #2 Doing great

Posts: 92 | Registered: Jun 2014
TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, this is so very true! I miss the days when life was spent thinking about actually living...not consumed with thinking, breathing, and dreaming all about this.


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


Posts: 481 | Registered: Jun 2013
TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Plus the BSs tend to be the ones who can keep their heads about them. And the ones working on R, well, they know a thing or two about making peace.


Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email

Posts: 715 | Registered: May 2014
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I cannot wait till one day when I will be using brain cells for something that will be happy, positive, and enrich my or my families life. That will be a good day indeed!

Absolutely!


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My head is always spinning with thoughts...buddhists call it the MindMonkey.

My mind used to go EVERYWHERE. It used to bother me so much. I could never focus on one thing.

FWW fixed that for me. Thanks, babe.


BH, 35, CoD, Military...sober since 6/17/14
FWW, EA/PA (x2) different OM coworkers
Reconciling since 8/1/13
100% ready to file at next dealbreaker...don't test me.

Posts: 209 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: NoVA
WhereIsHome
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, June 25th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like this is great words of wisdom for us betrayed. My buddy who got blindsided just like me said the following....

try to do something each day that is toward happiness and if WS doesn't fit into that activity or thought that that's a pretty clear indicator


I was betrayed - 39
Wayward Wife - 38
D-Day1 May 2011 bought her lies didn't get confirm on 1 till dday2.
D-Day2 Good Friday 2014...Good Friday have to laugh a little on that one.
Daughter #1 Stillborn
Daughter #2 Doing great

Posts: 92 | Registered: Jun 2014
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg I agree. I could have gone back to school, had an awesome job by now. All of the time I've spent on this shit just makes me sick. It just takes over your life and its hard to make it stop. I was obsessing over ws obsessing over ow. Like a dog chasing its tail.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5242 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does this not describe the core of the 180?

I cannot wait till one day when I will be using brain cells for something that will be happy, positive, and enrich my or my families life.

Seems like it does...

I don't know your sitch exactly, but I'm asking - what is your W doing? Is she showing true remorse in actions?

I peeked at your profile (& thanks for putting it there, it helps!) and found:

Her affairs and level of deceit to maintain them are just flat out despicable. Due to her career success, running marathons, and the ability to successfully smokescreen two affairs the past six years I think she is of sound mind. If healthy mentally, I would be long gone if it wasn't for our little girl.

I understand what you're saying, but is it really mentally healthy to do what she did (plus the level of deceit)?
Might want to think about it...

Regardless -is she doing the work a truly remorseful spouse needs to do?
You can't do it for her brother.
So yes, get into yourself, there's your real happy place.


Posts: 6765 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just stumbled on bionicgal's tagline

An affair is more like a mental illness than a relationship.

So yeah. Wow.


Posts: 6765 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to be of service.


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2156 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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