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User Topic: Abbondad and Allatsea - together
Guinness23
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, June 26th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Totally!!!


Me 47
ExH 43
Divorced 2010

47 is the new year of treating myself better than I have in 6 years.

What ever doesn't kill me makes me stronger so long as I remember that

My favorite drink is no longer Guinness but water. Call me Dasani23


Posts: 689 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Indiana
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 2:37 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Argh! Missed a connecting flight to UK and had to spend the night in Sweden. Will miss AAS's hearing today, most regrettably.

Here is wishing him well!!

PS: Customs forcibly removed me of all ghastly-wear. Part of their "No Ugly American" rule (or NUA). I now can pass as a Bland Brit ;-)


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1679 | Registered: Dec 2012
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:37 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah boo!

Have a blast boys! And if you happen to be in London and see an ugly woman who looks like an Indian man please kick her in the lady-nads for me and also send her my thanks for being a part of my liberation.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5660 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
HobbesTheTiger
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Retroactive good luck! How did it go?


BxBf, 26
Lots of FOO&other issues, working it through therapy
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Posts: 355 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Continental Europe
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LMAO at the fanny pack comment. My dad still wears one. AD and AAS, have a great time! Have a few drinks for the rest of us!


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1924 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
dignityintact
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is London ready for the two of you

The SE is basking in glorious sunshine - although thunder is hitting London on Sat. Typically I'm in London with a friend for the day - taking a brolly....us Brits love our US visitors....plus you're still in the FIFA world cup, and England has come home, tails between our legs


"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"

Divorcing - at last!


Posts: 94 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
TheGivingTree
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First time posting to either of you, but followed your stories as a lurker practically since the beginning. You both were so strong in the face of each of your WW's crap. You both reminded me of what was in store if I chose to D my WH. And I did not like what I saw. Thank you both for being there, being honest about your feelings, and sharing them with strangers (us). I am so happy that you two will get to meet in person. Have a wonderful time, boys!


Me: FBW, 48. Him: SAFWH, 57
3 fantastic kids: DS 17, DS 15, DD 11
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.

Working hard at R.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use me up, cut me down, build a boat and sail aw


Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: San Francisco
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have a great time you two!!

Looking forward to pics.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5550 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
ManBearDivorce
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Posts: 342 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota
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ManBearDivorce-

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allatsea
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi guys,

I can't believe how surreal it is to be sitting in my living room posting on SI while Abbondad is laid out on my sofa doing exactly the same thing.

Right now we are listening to Pink Floyd at very high volume at half past ten at night and trading war stories.

Today we've toured, what feels like, most of London visiting all of the sights and a great time has been had introducing an American to all of the typical British foods, language and history.


In regards to the court hearing; CexWW came out with all guns firing trying to press every button I had. She knows where they are and exactly how to press them. Fortunately my barrister had seen quite enough of her crazy and cruel behaviour from all of the previous hearings and was also personally invested in this too. She gave everything she had, and more, into ensuring that CexWW suffered and didn't walk out happy. The opening position statement from my barrister set the tone with the judge and from the outset CexWW was on the back foot. The judge was very unimpressed with the procrastination and hideous actions and said as much but ultimately is unable to rule on moral behaviour and has to stick within the law and any discretion she may have.

In summary Cex wanted a total of 87,000 through a mixture of utter delusion and lies and the judge saw right through it. I was prepared to offer 57000 but it took 63000 and some persuasion from the judge to get it done.

Although I know it was a victory it still feels unjust that she should be handed a very large lump sum to start her new life with whilst stretching me to my limit.
She is very clearly pissed at the result and has already prevented me speaking with the children today. Ho hum. Maybe she'll start to mellow now.

She brought the grulet to the court but I'm glad that I didn't get to see it.

It was a very emotional day and even the barrister was feeling frustrated by the end of it. My platonic female friend was in tears when she experienced my ex at work first hand. Up to that point she only knew of my ex through my stories. On Friday she saw it directly and could hardly believe how cruel someone could be to another.

I've spent a couple of days processing the result and going over every reaction I had.

My ex is dead to me. I just wish my heart felt the same.

[This message edited by allatsea at 5:48 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]


You can't fix crazy. All you can do is document it

Posts: 740 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Darn. Trying to figure out how to post an image. What am I doing wrong? I followed the directions on this site. (I'm using photobucket)

[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:45 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1679 | Registered: Dec 2012
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pic 1: Abbondad on left
Pic 2: Allatsea on left

Friend in the middle.

:-)

[This message edited by Abbondad at 5:52 PM, June 29th (Sunday)]


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great pics!!!

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to visit across the pond!

Is that Billabong? Way to bring the fashion dad


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2700 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is really cool. Reading this is one of those moments that shows just how great SI is at bringing people together and helping us all heal.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4103 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We certainly are a supportive bunch. I was with you both in spirit.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7824 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is indeed a Billabong, BG. It's the least loud garment I brought. Gotta represent! ;-)


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


Posts: 1679 | Registered: Dec 2012
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another thought.

Think of the money as the ticket price for part 2 of your life. In this part of your life, you get to decide what happens, who it happens with, and how it happens. Definitely worth the price of admission.

Perspective, my friend.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7824 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, June 29th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you labeled the pic, in case the respective clothing doesn't give you away as an American and a Brit

I saw my divorce costs as a garbage removal fee, and worth every penny (pence).


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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