This conversation is triggery for me. I have given her suggestions on where to look for ideas, I have given her specific things to read and in every case somewhere in her response is this is just too hard or I don't think I have it in me to do that. I guess it is real easy to drop the bomb, but is too much work to help cleanup the aftermath.
Sorry for the trigger. I get you brother.
In the beginning she said she would do "whatever it takes for as long as it takes" (I think she read that in a book). Actions aren't always that great. I too have given suggestions and received "I don't know if I can do that".
How about a subject change...fireworks?
This is my first year in the DC area. As the nation's capitol I expect to be impressed!
Happy 4th Gents!
Though much is taken, much abides; and though we are not now that strength which in old days
moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are
She's always asking what can She can do to make me feel better.
[This message edited by WearingTheHorns at 2:06 PM, July 3rd (Thursday)]
"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony
2 Cor 12:9-10
It helps that her hoovering is in form of these "broken person" texts instead of flirting. It's very much not attractive.
It's not that she "can't" fix it. It's that she "won't" fix it. Or "can't" because of the FOO crap and issues. Doesn't matter which I guess. Bottom line is that I'm alone now.
Took my lunch hour to look at some houses today. After the marital home is sold, I may want to get into a house, new construction preferred, to make my own memories with my kids from scratch.
I'm in no huge rush, but at this time in my life I'd rather pay mortgage than rent. Time continues to run and sooner than I want to there will be my kids' college to pay, so I have to straighten up the finances.
It's my year to have the kids on July 4th so I'll be picking them up tonight.
I think we won't do fireworks this year - golf, grill out, and enjoy the evening watching the lightning bugs in the trees. They are so dense right now the canopy looks like Christmas trees twinkling. If you've never seen it, it's a thing of beauty.
Happy 4th Mates! Stay safe, and may the fourth be with you
We usually go to Wilmette for brat(wurst)s, ice cream, and wonderful fireworks viewed from the beach on July 3. My back just won't be able to take that tonight - we're going to miss the show and the friendship this year.
Famous (in Illinois) 4th of July parade goes by our door tomorrow, and...to say what I was about to say would get me uncomfortably close to the 'no politics' boundary. Suffice it to say, the parade here is a showcase for political candidates, which is sometimes special.
Beautiful day today, supposed to be beautiful tomorrow.
[This message edited by sisoon at 4:16 PM, July 3rd (Thursday)]
If you're on the VA side of DC
Not very exotic this week, but I like it.
Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."
Gents - I started a thread in JFO in case we unfortunately have some new members. We know it's slow here on weekends, especially holidays. If you are on, jump up there and bump it if you think it's worthy. I'll be golfing, drinking, and healing
Ah, beer. Looks good from here, DR!
Now that I know it's working, who wants a glass of what. Yeah, some guys are into cars which is cool, I like to drink things that make me think that I go fast. This is what I have out, but anyone is welcome to whatever they want. I have plenty more in reserves that aren't in display.
Look, actual whiakey porn mags in the background.
I'm starting off with a Glenmo Companta. Anyone else want one?
[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 9:25 PM, July 3rd (Thursday)]
Looks wet. And it's beer. What's not to like?
Well said as always Tred.
Happy 4th brothers!
Wow, just wow!
won't enter the conversation anymore.
Glad you *see* that.
Happy 4th gentlemen.
Looking forward to the fireworks in St. Pete Florida!
Heading there right now!
This is my antiversary season. A year ago last night she didn't come home. July 13th was d day. It's been on my mind. But I'm meeting up with old friends for a beach day. Going to watch the fireworks from a rooftop pool deck in Tampa. Surrounding myself in love and positivity and support. And palm trees.
D is final in one week. Next weekend is gonna be rough.