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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 21
doubleboggy
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post

[This message edited by doubleboggy at 9:46 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]


D Day: 3/31/13

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:41 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

De rigueur for doubleboggy to have a double post I'd think...
My eyes kinda glazed over a bit when Tred was talkin midgets and llamas backaways. Took me *this long* to recover.
The next phase is dwarves and donkeys. Just sayin. Get ready buddy.

I'm about to be in your neighborhood, meeting with my brother - whom I haven't had a meaningful conversation with in over 20 years.
I'm trying to unpack all the pent up...like carrying a double armload of tottering boxes (I had comfortably placed on a dusty shelf)...

I might post a rant thread. Never have. Maybe I'm due.
Carry on.


Posts: 6587 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Breakfast and sex are awesome, but isn't that the cliche deflection response for a wife being a bitch and not wanting to own her bullshit? Like "Well he's going to be pissy so I'll placate him with some good old fashioned food and fucking."
Right. I don't want sex based on pity, or feeling bad, or trying to make up for some shit.

Feels vaguely (or not so vaguely) manipulative.

I got what you meant there, Sal. It's an intellectual versus emotional thing, methinks. Up here *points to head* I KNOW that someone else's shitty behavior should not affect my emotional state of mind, but that doesn't stop it from happening down in my heart.

Like Dert said, I don't think you ever get the two completely in sync, you just get as close as possible for you. I think that's why many guys go for a less enmeshed marriage in the 'new' marriage, as WAL has spoken about, because it's easier to cut your losses (both emotionally and otherwise) that way if it ever happens again.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

Posts: 2079 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a good point Nitro. I guess it just turns into a bad thing when it become a regular back & forth.

I must have totally missed the midgets and llamas.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

unless it was grits, I fucking hate grits
Really?!? It takes work to cook up some good grits...that shows love and care. My FWW will just fry up some bacon. That's the lazy way to a man's heart, IMO.

That post in Wayward hit home concerning the "infidelity tax". I almost missed it since I have to log out to see it. Still not sure how I earned the ban hammer, but I know the mods have to take a really strict stance.

But yep that infidelity tax comes all the time. There I was enjoying a beautiful Independence Day celebration and realized I had already given quite a bit of headspace up that day for the As. Made it 'that' much less awesome.


BH, 35, CoD, Military...sober since 6/17/14
FWW, EA/PA (x2) different OM coworkers
Reconciling since 8/1/13
100% ready to file at next dealbreaker...don't test me.

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hate grits? I didn't think that was possible.


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

Posts: 1387 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My FWW will just fry up some bacon. That's the lazy way to a man's heart

Nope, microwave.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hate grits? I didn't think that was possible.

I love grits unless someone puts sugar on them. Butter, salt, and pepper is all you need. Grits with toast and eggs over easy. And bacon. Maybe a bloody mary...


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love grits unless someone puts sugar on them.
Agreed

Shrimp and grits. Best way to eat grits imho.

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 12:22 PM, July 9th, 2014 (Wednesday)]


xBH
D final 8/2012

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MindMonkey
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shrimp and grits.

Mmmm. Just changed dinner plans. Thanks.


BH, 35, CoD, Military...sober since 6/17/14
FWW, EA/PA (x2) different OM coworkers
Reconciling since 8/1/13
100% ready to file at next dealbreaker...don't test me.

Posts: 209 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: NoVA
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Didn't like grits the couple of times I had them. It has been awhile, though. I'll have to try them again. Is it normal for them to smell kind of like ass?

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cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a Northerner who frequented the south, never got grits. Seems like really lumpy oatmeal.


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6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To me this...
It has been awhile, though. I'll have to try them again. Is it normal for them to smell kind of like ass?
...and this...
As a Northerner who frequented the south, never got grits. Seems like really lumpy oatmeal.
...just tells me the grits you had were not cooked the right way.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brandon beat me to it. I was thinking the same thing. Of course, they probably aren't for everyone.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Losfer,
Is it normal for them to smell kind of like ass?

I don't have a basis for comparison.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Grits being compared to lumpy oatmeal and ass. Is nothing sacred? This thread is dangerously close to dissolving into a civil war. Next thing you know, fried catfish will get targeted. Then it's really on.


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

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WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hot dog! Got an offer on that job I interviewed for and accepted it! More $$ + better benefits= here's my notice (which I haven't actually given yet)


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony
2 Cor 12:9-10


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats WTH!


Me (BS)-45, WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dude... I love fried catfish. Especially fresh caught! I would never target that.

I'll have to go on a quest for a decent plate of grits. Maybe they just don't make 'em correctly here in Colorado? Could it be the altitude?

That is great news, WTH. Congrats!!!


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats WTH!


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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