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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 21
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh that looks so tasty...


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2096 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope everyone has a nice evening!

I have a rare Friday night off from work, and hence I will be sipping on a little Bacardi and spending some quality time with my Xbox360 for a change.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

Posts: 2081 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Illinois
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gentlemen, being as it is Friday and all, I hereby propose that it's a good one for all.

Looking at a heat index over a hundred this weekend. Golfing both days. Those cold drinks are going to be especially tasty. Weird thing is that it was 56 yesterday morning


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like you have some bipolar weather where you are at, too, 54. It was a scorcher today. Luckily it rained and cooled things down for me to take the kid and the dogs to the park earlier this evening. Such a nice night out. Enjoy the golf!

Enjoy your QT with your XBox and Bacardi, Ascendant!

Turning into a nice peaceful evening here. Just what I needed after a bit of a brutal work week.


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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know what gents? Even with all the bullshit that brought us together, there's something copacetic, therapeutic, and quite frankly numbing, in a positive way, about a Friday evening. I have a contract on my house...hope I'm not jinxing things, but its a much higher offer than I thought I'd get. I have work projects I'm just buried under, and tonight,I'm giving myself permission to take a breather. Sometimes you just have to step back and think...you know what...considering why I'm posting on this site to begin with...life has a way of making things right, even if for brief intervals.

Yes, I'm busy as fuck at work and have a TON of pressure. Positive side, I get paid well, I've been promoted in the midst of all the A and D shit my ex put me through, and, well, I have a job. That contract on my house? yeah, moving sucks, but you know what? I wanted out of here, and my ex gets NOTHING from the sale. I'm getting visibly grayer by the day, but you know what? Considering where I was at the start of this year, I've got soooo very much to be proud of. I'm a survivor. you menz helped show me that. When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

So, if this sounds like shameless bragging, it may be partly that. Moreover, it's just me in a window of true perspective seeing that I have much to be thankful for. Calmed and embraced by these realizations, I raise a glass to you. I hope you all have those windows of positive reflection, those realizations that you are awesome, deserving of happiness, and you are the definition of what it is to be a man. Yes, we all share the hurt of being victims of infidelity. We bond over that, but that does not define us. We are so much more, and it's the loss of our WWs that they underestimated who we are. I'm honored to be in your presence. Peace and strength.

Cheers!

[This message edited by MadeOfScars at 9:37 PM, July 25th (Friday)]


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MOS:


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7447 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
mhca
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey guys, my first post to this thread. Nice to meet y'all.

Here's my Friday -- starting from still being stunned from deciding to D six days ago, but now I'm setting up my brand new gaming laptop, onto which I'm going to install some extremely violent video games. And blow some shit up. Virtually of course. And STBXWW can't stop me. Sublime.


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

Sample recovery plan, feedback welcome: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961


Posts: 600 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excellent stuff, MOS!!!

Hello and welcome, mhca. I think you'll fit in very well here. I had to do a few violent games for awhile there, myself. Good to have you here, despite the circumstances.


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mhca,
Welcome brother. You're gonna fit right in!

Ummm, did they tell you at the door that the first round is on the noob?

Hey, followed your posts. Sorry for your sitch, damn, she's heartless. I think violent video games are absolutely the right response.
Does Tequila go with sublime?


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@ mhca

Welcome brother, Blow some shit up (virtually speaking) and blow off steam here. This really is the best club you never wanted to be a part of. We got you. Lean on us.

@ StillGoing

I'd ask who is who in that pic, but either way we're both winners. *fistbump*


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

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mhca
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys. I'd definitely lift a glass right now but I got sober about 12 years ago and probably this would be a bad time to change my mind. Maybe a Clausthaler.

That's something I'm pretty proud of. This shit storm didn't drive me to drink. Still standing.


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

Sample recovery plan, feedback welcome: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@mhca

Welcome. We're a rowdy bunch but this group is supportive as hell.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mhca - As much as some of us love our libations, there's no lack of respect for those who don't partake, especially in circumstances such as these. Consider any and all noob tabs paid. We have much else to talk about, gratuitous beer pics aside. Seriously, you're an inspiration.

[This message edited by MadeOfScars at 11:19 PM, July 25th (Friday)]


“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excellent choice brother. Put my own glass down for over a year after D-day. Proud of you for your sobriety. Takes a strong man to stand up like that in this shitstorm.
MOS is right, tab paid.
Welcome


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, July 25th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Serious respect for sobriety here as well. Takes a real man to know when enough is enough and to do the work to fix it.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

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mhca
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the props guys. Can't believe I'm here but I guess might as well make the most of it.

Ascendant: just noticed your sig:

"The thing that always seems to be shocking to wayward wives is the simple fact that the man you choose to reconcile with is not the same man you cheated on."

That is so damn true. I was so trusting of her, a pushover really. Whatever she wanted she got. But then she pushed too far and pushed herself right off a cliff. I've got a much harder heart now and no way in hell I'm going to follow her into the abyss. I think it surprises her that I'm not just going along with her agenda anymore, that she's lost me and now it's too late.


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

Sample recovery plan, feedback welcome: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961


Posts: 600 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was so trusting of her, a pushover really. Whatever she wanted she got. But then she pushed too far and pushed herself right off a cliff.

Funny how that works, eh?


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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BitterlyCynical
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was so trusting of her, a pushover really. Whatever she wanted she got. But then she pushed too far and pushed herself right off a cliff.

Mine did the same thing. I'm drawn to this mental image of Wyle E Coyote trying to push a boulder off a cliff except pushing himself off instead. And of course not falling until he looks down.

Drinks on the noob right? I gotta make a beer (hope you like yeungling!) run in a bit, but I got a bottle of crown that's been looking mighty lonely.


Betrayed Husband 32 (me)
(Wayward) Wifey Dearest 24
Other "Man" 25ish (WW's 'best friend'/'new roommate')
Separated 5/16/2014

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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Send that bottle of Crown my way. I promise it won't be lonely for long....


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 992 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Off topic discussion, just seeing how others feel.

After my 1st M crashed and burned, I swore off marriage ever again. A couple short years later I married my STBX.

As she's in the fog dreaming of OM's dick, she says "you'll find someone new". I don't want anyone new, and I don't want her either.

I know we all have this chip on our shoulders coming out of an M (especially an M with a WS). But I really think getting a couple of dogs and focusing on the important things in life like being a Father, Hunting, Fishing, and good beer are more in line with a productive future rather than ever messing around with the notion of a relationship ever again.

Not to say I won't need some "service points" every now and again. But I just don't see going down this road a third time.

Any thoughts?


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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