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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 21
5454real
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fuck Luck, sending strength and Menz Mojo.

you've got this brother. We've got your back!

ETA I'm sorry it has come to this. I wish I could do something in real life to help alleviate the pain.

[This message edited by 5454real at 7:53 PM, July 30th (Wednesday)]


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Tred
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mhca - I know there aren't any words for shit like this. Do what you need to do, get it done, and get it over. Strength brother. I imagine it's like delivering a Western Union telegram to a door during wartime.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3931 | Registered: Dec 2011
mhca
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Deed is done, went fine. WW stuck to the script and did a good job. Thanks for the good mojo guys.

Turning point time I guess, time for a new life.


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

Sample recovery plan, feedback welcome: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961


Posts: 599 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
WearingTheHorns
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, July 30th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H&L,
Just wanted to add my helpful hints. Eat foods that make you gassy and let it rip when she's nearby, preferably sneaking up on her first. Bonus points for catching her in a dutch oven or getting in her face while she sleeps.

Or, tell her your biggest regret about the M ending is that now you'll never get to give her that Dirty Sanchez/Donkey Punch/Cleveland Steamer you'd always hoped for. Then add, "Unless of course you'd like to do it now."

Pubic hair is a great idea. Especially a few hairs on her bar of soap.


Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months

"What God has joined together, let man... no man put asunder" -Pastor at our wedding concluding the ceremony
2 Cor 12:9-10


Posts: 267 | Registered: Dec 2012
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking of you, mhca. Hoping things get better for you from here on out after this turning point.

Posts: 7090 | Registered: Dec 2010
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mhca, glad to hear it went without major incident. You handled it great (I left in the middle of the night before she came back home, and left her to figure it out - not one of my proudest moments but I doubt she would have stuck to a script I gave her so at least I was going to control how it ended).

Proud of you man


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 730 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
mhca
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Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys. Lifting a non-alcoholic virtual beer to y'all.


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

Sample recovery plan, feedback welcome: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961


Posts: 599 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 6:38 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I ever meet a woman who shoves herself into bed with me in less than a week, I'll toss her out the window!

Just to be clear, will you toss her out before or after you have degrading sex with her?


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min


Posts: 219 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NB Canada
Tred
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll toss her out the window

I guess that's why they call it window pain - Eminem.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3931 | Registered: Dec 2011
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

will you toss her out before or after you have degrading sex with her?

Well, how could you know if it was degrading w/o actual participation?

Lifting a non-alcoholic virtual beer to y'all.

I'll buy. Keep up the good fight. Good job!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
FrmrBH80124
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job mhca! Glad it went as well as could be expected.

YOP gave you some great advice in your other thread. You are the stable parent so please keep checking in on your kids.

I'll buy the second round!


ME - BH 45
Her - XWS 30
D - April 2010 - never looked back and good riddance.
Happily remarried!

Though much is taken, much abides; and though we are not now that strength which in old days
moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are


Posts: 164 | Registered: Apr 2014
cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mhca.

Glad things went well. It's usually worse in our minds than IRL.

As to starting a new life... you can still have all the roles you filled before, just not H. I have an altered life. Still raising kids, dealing with house, etc.. just without pain in ass wife.


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min


Posts: 219 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NB Canada
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

will you toss her out before or after you have degrading sex with her?

AFTER I consumate acts that one wouldnt perform on a farm animal, of course. I still have needs that a man to hand relationship can only take so far!


@MHCA - Congrats on your discussion going as smooth as possible; hang tough and keep on moving. Each day only gets better from here on out!


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 987 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As an afterthought, I'm starting to enjoy the small things in life again without the mind consuming reality of a crumbling M and then the A.

My DS is working close by my office this summer, so we usually go out for lunch a couple of times a week.

So today we grabbed a pizza slice, sat outside in glorious summer weather and talked menz stuff; sports, travel and more sports. It's a great relief from the day and from life in general.

Although I take it one day at a time, I certainly have little thoughts of "How do I go on without WW!?"

Enjoy your altered/new life, find the new you or the old buried you and I'm pretty sure you'll be happy with what you find.


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your min


Posts: 219 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NB Canada
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Enjoy your altered/new life, find the new you or the old buried you and I'm pretty sure you'll be happy with what you find.

It takes a little getting used to Gent's, but I have to remind myself from time to time that the years in between XW and STBXW were a some of the best years of my adult life.

For those going down the road to Divorce, there IS light at the end of the tunnel.

Unless your standing on railroad tracks. Then its a train coming at you and you're fucked.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 987 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
HeartFullOfHoles
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I hear a whistle.


BH - Divorcing
D-Day 4/28-29/2012
Two daughters in HS

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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HFOH -

Hang in there Brother, I don't think that's a whistle. I took some of yesterdays meal plan advice , and you probably just heard me shart. Gotta go change my shorts.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 987 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
HeartFullOfHoles
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H&L, Thanks. Certainly shrill for flatulence, but I'll take your word for it.


BH - Divorcing
D-Day 4/28-29/2012
Two daughters in HS

Posts: 144 | Registered: Mar 2014
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HFOH -
We can both thank WTH for today's musical shorts routine, where both high soprano and low bass sounds are rumbling through the cubicle farm! It did get her out of my bed in a hurry this morning though!


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

Posts: 987 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: MidWest
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you guys do realize that if you sit on a pillow and fart the smell will linger for hours. repeat it a few times and the smell will stay for days.

just sayin


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
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