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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 21
Forged1
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you guys do realize that if you sit on a pillow and fart the smell will linger for hours. repeat it a few times and the smell will stay for days.

Filed for future reference.


Strength and best wishes to all the new arrivals, as well as the veterans.

Anyway, I'm late to the dance, as usual. I've just driven all the way from the friggin' Adirondacks, there's this enormous sword in the passenger seat and the driver's seat is covered in what I think is blue woad.

I guess what I really need to know is where to put Ricky Gervais, Russell Brand and Piers fucking Morgan. They're out in the back of the truck and I can't ID the other seven. Anyone?

Oh - anybody got some pants I could borrow?



Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


Posts: 284 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess what I really need to know is where to put Ricky Gervais, Russell Brand and Piers fucking Morgan. They're out in the back of the truck and I can't ID the other seven. Anyone?

Ricky Gervais, Russel Brand, and the other seven should fit in the septic tank. As for ol Pierce, I suggest pickling and canning his ass, then exporting that dumb shit back to Great Britain as pickled herring. America's had enough of his shit.

[This message edited by HurtingandLost at 2:40 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, you can imagine how many threads went on and on @ the 50 shades phenomena right?
I wish I had read this earlier:

http://time.com/3030375/dave-barry-50-shades-of-grey/

Have a good laugh gents!
(You too Tred)


Posts: 6617 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Forged1
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ricky Gervais, Russel Brand, and the other seven should fit in the septic tank. As for ol Pierce, I suggest pickling and canning his ass, then exporting that dumb shit back to Great Britain as pickled herring. America's had enough of his shit
.

Noted.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


Posts: 284 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wish me luck gents. Tomorrow I have the work equivalent of dancing with the prettiest girl at the party to see if she'll want to date regularly. I have been preparing a demo for them for a while and it's an all day thing with lots or different teams on their side, which means the pretty lady is very interested.

I'm hopping on a plane at an ungodly early hour so I'm there by business start. They programmed all day (it started as 3 hours - another good sign).


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 745 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
Tred
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bro hug Played - knockem dead mate.

Here's a dog photo to ease your anxiety...


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And oh shit I'm dieing JJ! Dave Barry is one of my favorites!

“My inner goddess fist-pumps the air above her chaise longue.”

That needs to be a tagline...SLH around?

ETA - If you've never read Dave Barry - read JJ's link. I've put a sample of the article below.


So anyway, Anastasia and Christian meet, and he is of course attracted to her, although because of her walnut brain she can’t believe this despite the fact that, as I have already noted, every freaking person she meets is attracted to her. Christian starts stalking her and pressuring her to engage in—and I do not mean this to sound in any way judgmental—sicko pervert sex. He wants to tie her up with ropes, handcuffs, shackles, tape, etc. He wants to blindfold and gag her. He wants to spank her, whip her, flog her, cane her, paddle her, put nipple and genital clamps on her, bite her and use hot wax on her. We know this because he asks her to sign a contract agreeing to let him do these things to her. Yes! To be fair, the contract clearly states that there will be “no acts involving fire play . . . urination or defecation and the products thereof” and “no acts involving children or animals.” Because that’s the kind of old-fashioned cornball romantic Christian is.

[This message edited by Tred at 9:19 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best of luck, GP!!! Sending lots of mojo in your direction.

Tred, is that dog from Colorado?


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, July 31st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There has to be a way to photoshop Koda into that picture...we have some talented people here!


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GP, good Luck


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2869 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm positive it will be Well Played, sir!

That's a great, feel-good pic man!
(& Dave Berry is the best!)
Happy Friday guys!


Posts: 6617 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was a great article, JJ.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

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DefiledRage
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Inner Goddess

Haven't read the book, refuse to, does she really think herself worthy of worship? Smells like a wayward in training.

We here at Menz know better

My inner goddess

=

My inner drama llama

Hilarious article jj!


M:14yrs
Dday 1 EA 7/8/2010
Dday 2 PA 3/1/2013 same OMM for 4yrs

Mister rabbit says, "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."


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cvs2kkids
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well menz,

Been a busy week, but now a long week-end here in Canada.

Get to go to my deceased uncle's house and pick-up some replacement items that STBX took to her new place. Thanks Uncle B, even gift giving from Heaven.

Kids want to go see the new "Guardian of the Galaxy" movie. The trailer didn't do much for me, but the critics love it.

Play Mr. Mom and clean up, weed (her damn gardens) and spend quality time with kids.

So to the rest of you, have an awesome week-end

[This message edited by cvs2kkids at 12:56 PM, August 1st (Friday)]


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your mind


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it, DR!!!

Here's the "after" photo. I posted this in F&G about a year or so ago, thought today would be appropriate, too.

Happy Friday/weekend, gents!!!!


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slater13
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure why I am posting. It's Friday so I know most are thinking about the weekend/ having a few beers.

Honestly, I haven't even been on here much lately. At 2+ years out I am trying to move on. But I just can't. I saw our MC alone this week (we don't go that often anymore) and the reality of what our marriage is now just seems like a bad joke.

I am not sure why I haven't left yet;
fear of change
fear of losing her (crazy to consider)
fear of being alone
fear of hurting kids
belief it's my job as father to keep the family in tact.

Honestly I don't know. But my fWW does very little in the way of comforting me and makes almost zero effort in acknowledging the affair even took place. As WAL put it a while back - to her its a part of a past she can hardly imagine is even true. It's like she she is a great wife now that she isn't fucking another dude.

I am trying to focus on me but it's hard. I have always been dad or husband. I have ignored all of my hobbies.

Thanks for listening.


The choices we make reveal the true nature of our character

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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Slater -

But my fWW does very little in the way of comforting me and makes almost zero effort in acknowledging the affair even took place. As WAL put it a while back - to her its a part of a past she can hardly imagine is even true. It's like she she is a great wife now that she isn't fucking another dude.

I am trying to focus on me but it's hard. I have always been dad or husband. I have ignored all of my hobbies.

This was my situation until stbx did me a favor and cheated again. Even now, she says that she did "everything possible" to help me get past it all (even though she hasnt done shit. You know, like IC / MC, a little remorse would be nice).

I have stuggled since our recent move last November to a new state to get back into my hobbies as well. I've taken the kids fishing a bunch of times, that was cool. I sold my harley prior to the move (thats a major bummer). I can't work on repairs / remodeling in the house becuase she has shit piled everywhere.

BUT...Listen. Once you've separated, and you have YOU time, take every opportunity to make each and every day about YOU and what YOU want.

Once upon a time, about 9 years ago, I knew the guy in the mirror who was fun, spontaneous, and larger than life. I had friends, I dated, I fished, hunted, partied, etc. I was a great Dad to my oldest two from my first marriage.

Then I met by stbx, and I ALLOWED her to turn me into some introverted shell. I lost touch with friends, stopped my hobbies, and everything became all about HER.

Now that she's leaving (don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya) I fully intend to reclaim my life. And I encourage you to do the same.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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64fleet
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

slater, I can relate. Similar sitch here, I've even thought this exact same thought-

It's like she she is a great wife now that she isn't fucking another dude.

Mine has changed quite a bit, got involved with the church, pays attention to the kids now, quit drinking all the time, etc., but still it seems like its not enough?
Sometims I think this is as good as it gets.


time wounds all heels

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

cvs - Sounds like you have a full weekend ahead of you. Glad it is a long one, so hopefully you can get some downtime in between all of that stuff you've got going on.

slater! Long time, no see. Definitely feel free to post anything at anytime on this thread (within the SI guidelines of course).

I agree with what HurtingandLost was saying about taking some time to focus on you. Maybe if you force yourself to start participating in one of your hobbies, your interest will pick up on it, and you'll be back in the swing of it. Kind of like a snowball effect.

I think you've done every duty as a father to keep your family intact. Total respect there. The kids want a dad that is happy, too. Try to keep that in mind as well.

Sending much strength in your direction.


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HurtingandLost
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, August 1st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Losferwords - Thanks for saying what I meant.

Slater - don't be afraid to reclaim your life. As Losferwords said, your kids will enjoy the newer, happier you.


36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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