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User Topic: Tomorrow is one year since DDay#2
Brave30
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tomorrow will mark one year since DDay#2. One year since I had to pack my things and end our marriage. Is it weird that I'm not even remotely dreading it... I'm almost looking forward to it.

I spent 5 very long years in False R. Years that were spent obsessing over his A, wondering about the first OW, worrying that there were other A's, feeling miserable and broken down. I didn't feel good about myself and I knew our marriage was over but I kept hanging on in the hope that he would realize what a precious gift I had given him to even consider R. I wanted so badly for him to give me worth.

This year has been a lot of just surviving, Lots of tears and frustration, as well. Some truly terrible things have happened. But, I made it. I've made it a whole year and I've kept moving forward. My marriage is over. It has been over for a long time and I'm okay with that. I don't want him back, I don't want that miserable existence where I'm constantly checking phones and emails, looking over my shoulder, feeling awful about myself every single day.

The only thing I really struggle with on a daily basis is knowing that I can never change the fact that we share children together. I still need to work on the guilt that I feel for providing my kids with a bad father. Even though I'm "free" from being his wife (well, as soon as we finally hammer out the final settlement and sign papers) and he can never hurt me with his lies and manipulations in that capacity anymore, it is still a challenge to know that he will never be fully removed from my life.

So, as I move into Year 2. I'm going to keep working on myself. Learn to empower myself and know that I have worth as a person. I have a right to be respected. I'm going to continue focusing on my children and being the best mom I can be for them.


Posts: 62 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United States
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this post. (((Brave)))


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17392 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
WhereIsHome
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brave30...keep on keeping on. I am proud of you.


I was betrayed - 39
Wayward Wife - 38
D-Day1 May 2011 bought her lies didn't get confirm on 1 till dday2.
D-Day2 Good Friday 2014...Good Friday have to laugh a little on that one.
Daughter #1 Stillborn
Daughter #2 Doing great

Posts: 89 | Registered: Jun 2014
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still need to work on the guilt that I feel for providing my kids with a bad father.

I struggle with choosing so poorly for my girls too. I have 14 more years of this shit - they have the rest of their lives to deal with it.

Divorce cures a shit husband problem but not a shit father problem, unfortunately.

I remind myself every single day that HE is responsible for what kind of father he is. I based my decision on faulty data.

Other than that you are healing nicely.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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