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User Topic: Rules for a successful R??
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you make a written contract for R?
I'm thinking I will make a contract and present it to WS today, and if he doesn't want to abide by it, I have all his clothes and belongings already packed and by the door.

What were some rules you established for a successful R?

DD-5 yrs old

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Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read the thread in here called "Before you say R..." It's wonderful for laying out the needs of a BS.

I had these:

100% transparency and accountability
Expressed remorse
Recognizing that I was in no way responsible for the EAs
No alone time with feminine women
The truth about the worst of what she did

I did the 180 until she agreed and we were separated in-house. I told her to start looking for an apartment when she decided to meet my needs for R.

Risk you relationship to save it.

Good luck.

WS: 38--2 EAs
BS: 38--me, faithful
DS: 5
8 year relationship in R.
DDay #1: September 6, 2013 EA for 5 weeks August 2013.
DDay #2: January 2, 2014 EA for 6 weeks summer 2011.
"I am still learning." -Michelangelo

Posts: 512 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, June 27th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

check out this thread. Mhca made this list of requirements:

his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 48
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

ôSlide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."

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