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User Topic: AP torturing me?
notgoneyet
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The AF has moved 50 miles to be in the same town as us. Very small town. I see her most everyday. WH denies knowing why she is here, having any contact, etc. I don't know what to believe. I keep CLOSE tabs on him and his phone. She posts on facebook that she is in a relationship and other things about not being over until GOD says its over.

MY DIL says not be believe him and to get out. I just don't know what to do. We are in IC and MC where he denies everything and denies when I ask him. But this is the 2nd time for an affair ist time EA, this time PA and I don't know what to believe. So far I have opened my own credit card and opened own bank accounts 40 years of marriage almost.

Anyone else been here and it turned out alright? She is present in our town frequently. It is just creepy.

Help.


Need to update: After almost 3 years at first Dday came DDay #2 which was a true PA with an employee. After discussion on DDAy, he appeared to realize what he had done and called her and went NC. Since then we have been in IC and MC but I am strug

Posts: 140 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: mn
notgoneyet
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I means AP affair partner.


Need to update: After almost 3 years at first Dday came DDay #2 which was a true PA with an employee. After discussion on DDAy, he appeared to realize what he had done and called her and went NC. Since then we have been in IC and MC but I am strug

Posts: 140 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: mn
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 6:49 PM, June 28th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do they still work together?


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


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notgoneyet
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been out of touch for awhile. He fired her when I told him he had to so no they don't work together anymore. It is just so strange. I never blocked her on fb because I couldnt see her, obviously she blocked me from the start. I created fake fb account and can see her and she still says in a relationship and posts things like "he" fulfills her needs. She is "very religious" what a joke. Don't know what to think, what to believe. I keep absolute control over who he talks to, where he goes but think I need to hire a pi to make sure. I'm not sure I want to know. So sad.


Need to update: After almost 3 years at first Dday came DDay #2 which was a true PA with an employee. After discussion on DDAy, he appeared to realize what he had done and called her and went NC. Since then we have been in IC and MC but I am strug

Posts: 140 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: mn
Girlietoo
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It must be very difficult to be in that kind of limbo. It's sad to say but I hope she is just posting those things to make you think awful things about your husband. I hope you can get the positive conformation that you are looking for.


Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personally, I'd use all the different investigative techniques, but also loosen the strings and see what he does when he thinks you aren't so vigilant. Trying to control him will just wear you out in every way. Instead let him make his choices for himself, and then at least you'll know if you truly have a shot at R


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 998 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would hire a PI.

She might just be crazy but that would have my stomach in knots and I would need definite proof.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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