Your original post really hits home with me. I need to own my feelings and my reactions to those feelings. I need to understand what is happening around me, and know I can chose the way I react to those things.
Too often before I'd withdraw and justify it by blaming everyone around me. Or I'd overreact to minor things around me. I can control my reactions to all of those things around me.
To a very large extent, I can control my feelings, too. For example, when I get stuck cleaning up the kitchen at 11:30 PM (like last night), I used to feel upset and unappreciated and the like. Now I relize that I have more energy than BW, and when I do things it is because I want to, not because I am being ignored. I can control my feelings in situations like that.