Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: JRconfused (45363)

New Beginnings Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Old sexual innuendo
Must Survive
♀ Member
Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I could have titled this is it him or is it me?

A man sends me a msg on OLD. A bit over the top complimentary, but ok. It seems all chats have sexual innuendo. But then I think maybe I am the one with the dirty mind .

Here is the one that stands out to me. He says "Hi! Was thinking about U if u don't mind "

Is it me or is that creepy?? I don't think I am a prude, but he doesn't know me, aaakkk, he just sent me another one.

Just gonna let him know I don't think we are a good match.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
PurpleRose
♀ Member
Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure what is creepy about "I was thinking about you"

??


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Must Survive
♀ Member
Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He had commented on looking at a certain pic, and it felt like the conversation was alluding to "ah hem he was doing certain things".

He also goes on to say that if we had already met, I would be laying next to him, cuddling, feeling safe in his arms.

No where in any of my msgs did I say anything to get him to that spot.

I guess for me, on OLD, I want to see if we have any common interest, if you seem normal with msgs, we can meet and take it from there.

I guess I feel as he is acting more familiar than should be after 1 day of maybe 10 msgs.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking about you = not creepy

Alluding to masturbation = creepy

Talking about laying in arms = creepy


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Chrysalis123
♀ Member
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thinking about you = not creepy
Alluding to masturbation = creepy
Talking about laying in arms = creepy

This


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2713 | Registered: Jan 2010
cvs2kkids
♂ Member
Member # 41298
Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking about you = not creepy

Alluding to masturbation = creepy

Talking about laying in arms = creepy

LOL. A reason OLD scares the Helsinki out of me.

Who in their right mind would write sh*+ like this and thinks it's complimentary?!

Thinking mail order bride looking like a viable option in distant future.


Philippians 4:6-7

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your mind


Posts: 234 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: NB Canada
cmego
♀ Member
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What I"ve learned on OLD...if you get creeped out *at all*, then it is time to next him.

Your gut is telling you something for a reason.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4186 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
lieshurt
♀ Member
Member # 14003
Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What I"ve learned on OLD...if you get creeped out *at all*, then it is time to next him.


^^^This

Also, when the sexual innuendo comes out, they are typically testing you. If you go along with it, then great. They are happy as can be because they think you'll be jumping into bed with them the first time you meet. If you balk at the sexual innuendo, then they pull the "oh, I was just kidding. I didn't mean it the way you took it" bullshit and then they poof on you.


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

Posts: 13810 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
Must Survive
♀ Member
Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks you guys. My gut is telling me something for sure. Next!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
libertyrocks
♀ Member
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really, just tell them you don't think you're a good match?????? I keep getting freaked out by these guys and deleting my profile!!!!!! LOL!!! Omg, I crack myself up. Can you tell, I'm really new at this?

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:49 PM, June 30th (Monday)]


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
Must Survive
♀ Member
Member # 34533
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And he did what was expected. I nicely said I didn't think we would be a good match and good luck on the site.

Angry response that I was typical, joke around and run.

Dodged another one.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 785 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
SBB
♀ Member
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dodged another one.

Big time. Not only is it creepy I think it is really bad manners to pull that shit AND bad manners to pout when someone isn't receptive to your creepiness.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Sad in AZ
♀ Member
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you haven't met or exchanged more than a few words, and you feel uncomfortable, just block them. You don't owe them anything.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20292 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Topic Posts: 13

Return to Forum: New Beginnings Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.