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User Topic: I laughed.
cmego
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I received a phone call today that my D is final.

I laughed. I felt light and happy and my only thought was, "It is finally over."

Ex texted that he will now work on his end (COBRA), and said "I wasn't sure if I should text you." I replied that I was fine and laughing. He said, "You are laughing??".

Yes. I. Am.

I have a date tomorrow night...with a very interesting man. Very.

My, what a few years will do for a girl.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4183 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you to have this final piece done. Congrats and have fun tomorrow


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3404 | Registered: Dec 2011
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!! I hope you have a great time on your date.

Posts: 35848 | Registered: Mar 2011
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulatory hugs, ((((cmego))))!! I know that feeling and felt the same. Total relief and feeling light and free. Enjoy your new life.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2381 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17488 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
cayc
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

clap clap clap!!!!!!!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3119 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! So glad for you.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7763 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOOWHOO!

FINALLY!! Was my reaction.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

moving on. Welcome to the rest of your life.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! *hitting the like button*


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3620 | Registered: Oct 2011
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, June 30th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*like*

Wait, cross that out.

*love!!*


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Ms_Strong
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Default  Posted: 4:06 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember seeing your handle on replies to my posts, and posts that I replied to over the years.
I'm so happy for you! That's great. Congratulations!
I was so relieved when my D was official too. My XH cried on the day. How 'bout that.


Me: 40, happily divorced Dec11
D-Day #1 - 9th Jan 11, D-Day #2 - 13th Jan 11
Kids - 4, 8 yrs

Posts: 269 | Registered: Jan 2011
brokeninfl
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*like*
Wait, cross that out.

*love!!*

^^^^^

This!

I'm so happy for you!!


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


Posts: 1074 | Registered: Dec 2008
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!!

Do you feel differently? I know your long separation was different from many that we see here (struggling to finish the divorce/fight the fight, whereas your was voluntary to finish school, with an extremely strong separation agreement in place and all the arguments knocked out), so I was curious if it felt as monumentous as some of the "victory" divorces?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13798 | Registered: Jul 2011
cmego
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ama...

Yeah, actually I do feel different. It was a long fight with him, even fighting when I filed (he tried to change the PSA one last time), but I was able to not be emotional about the fighting since I'm so detached. Does that make sense? My IC says I treat him like a buzzing fly, annoying...but out of my head as soon as I brush him off.

It is a "free" feeling. I don't know how to explain it. Not a victory, but just...free.

And nervous about this date tonight. This man is different. A "real" date at a nice restaurant and drinks afterwards at a wine bar. We shall see.

[This message edited by cmego at 12:57 PM, July 1st (Tuesday)]


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4183 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 606 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have fun on your date tonight


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it :) I hope the new free feeling bodes well for your dating as well!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13798 | Registered: Jul 2011
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Free is lovely. Congrats, honey.

We'll be waiting up for the debrief when you get in from your date. Don't miss curfew.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25717 | Registered: Aug 2011
cmego
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Date went well He asked me out again and I accepted.

I didn't get major butterflies, but more of a secure calmness..which I take as a good sign. I enjoyed his company, I though he was very cute and am looking forward to spending more time with him.

Yeah!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4183 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
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