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Default  Posted: 2:09 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everyone. Going to go get some sleep now. I appreciate everyone taking the time to read this. It was good to get it out.

Good night.

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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy crap Jrazz! I am so glad you are ok.

Your survival instinct clearly took over and thankfully you were able to get away. I'm glad you were able to have a good weekend and have come out of the event feeling like a winner.

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Default  Posted: 3:55 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my gosh Jrazz!! I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad that you got away ok. Hope you are sleeping peacefully. I will be thinking of you.


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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


it makes me sick that this happened to you but I'm beyond grateful you weren't harmed further.

With love and strength.

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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It scares me as a father of 2 daughters that sick people like you encountered exist and with common frequency. I am glad that you got out and safe. I hope that you find an IC to help with any emotional trauma from this. I know it would turn my world upside down if it happened to me.


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Default  Posted: 7:08 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is the stuff my nightmares are made of, especially being the mother of a daughter (as Moo said).

I'm glad you were able to escape. (((Jrazz)))

Take up your space (and do it well).

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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so sorry. You were extremely brave. I'm thankful you are home safe. Sending lots of love your way.

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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so glad that you escaped. It's an awful feeling to have something like that happen.

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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. So glad you are ok, but this is crazy.

Just the other day, someone at work was telling a story about the same type of situation that happened last weekend. She was in a Wendy's bathroom.

Not sure I'll be using public restrooms alone anymore.

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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm glad you are ok and got out of that with your clear thinking.

this happened to me once and I froze (and of course the awful thing happened). and that is also a normal reaction but one other people don't understand why I didn't do anything... but anyway....

I never thought of myself as a target. I don't know why, because hubby says I'm a huge target. Now I listen to him, I listen to stories like this. Look how many women posted on here with similar experiences... It can happen to us it can happen to anyone...

i'm so glad you are going to talk to someone about this.

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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I am really thankful that you got away when you did. It never ceases to amaze me what type of sick people are out there.

Best of luck with finding a new IC to talk about this. There are some good ones out there, it is just a matter of finding one.

(((Rachelc))) - I am so sorry for what you went through as well.

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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh shit honey. I've been groped by strangers on two separate occasions, which sucks, but never cornered alone like that. That's terrifying. I hope that guy ends up rotting in a jail cell. I'm so glad you're ok. Big (((((HUGS)))))

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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you're okay Jrazz - that's scary and you handled yourself incredibly.

Please follow up with the police - the next person he corners may not be so lucky.


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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 8:25 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so, so glad you are safe. So glad.

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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You showed amazing strength and composure during an awful experience, and sharing your story I know also must have taken strength.

Thank you, Lord, for keeping JRazz safe. Please watch over others who may find themselves in similar situations, and provide peace and healing to those who were unable to escape their attackers.

So very scary. Thank you for sharing, and giving us all time to pause and think about how we protect ourselves. I know that I have blazed through life always thinking "it won't happen to me." Time to become more aware, and more prepared.

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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First ... whew - I'm glad you're OK!

I'm writing this today because I think that up until this event I had an assumption that I was bulletproof when out on my own. I've never carried mace - I've never felt the need. I walk in the dark alone. I travel alone. It never occurred to me that someone would try to shut me in a filthy drugstore bathroom and take advantage of me. Coming through this, I'm proud that I was able to get out of that situation but I have a new sense of humility when it comes to being out in the world.

The bolded items are the crux of your message. This is why I believe that everyone should learn self-defense - it's unfortunate that people (mostly women - sorry!) have to be aware of their surroundings and have a plan for self-defense from scumbags like this but that's the reality in which we live. The 'safe bubble' that you think you have is simply an illusion. The 'safe bubble' that you actually create through awareness and a plan for self-defense is real.

Your message is important!



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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


That is some scary shit. I am thrilled that you had the wherewithal to hold it together, and get out.

Too bad you didn't get to dump some finger nail polish remover in his eyes.

I do believe that it is essential to always be aware of your surroundings, and listen to that voice in the back of your head, if something doesn't feel right, then get out/away/separate from it.

I personally have never been approached as such, but did get a vibe that something wasn't right one time, and left, only to find out the place was robbed and the woman behind the counter badly beaten several minutes later.

Be aware, be alert, hold your head high, and show confidence, that will scare the bad guys off quicker than anything, and always always always, remember this is the one time it is good to be very loud.

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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so, so glad you are okay.

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