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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no sweetie, I am so so sorry. How terrifying. Thank god you had the presence of mind to take quick and decisive action. You saved yourself from god knows what kind of horror.

Just reading your account gave me that sick feeling that many of us know so well.

I have been in two terrifyingly similar situations, both from which I escaped unharmed physically, but yes, this may mess with your head for quite a while. In one situation, I was able to run, but in the other, I froze, and remained trapped in an apt with the guy for over an hour in which I was finally able to talk my way out of.

I, too, had previously felt invincible. Not now. I think we all need to really have a plan in place for protecting ourselves in ALL sorts of situations. My cousin just posted on Facebook last night that she had a flat tire in a bad part of town. There are just so many things that can happen. 😟

I'm so happy you are okay. ((((Jrazz))))

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 1:40 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7092 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Tammy1
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you were able to get away. This will make me think twice about public bathrooms.


BW: 40 (me)
WH: 42 (him)
Married 18 years
3 kids
D-Day: 4/7/14, 9 month LTA
Together- trying to R

Posts: 72 | Registered: Apr 2014
sadone29
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you're okay!

I'm happy that you had such great friends to help you through it.


DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"I am pretty sure enforcing the boundary is the most important part of the boundary"- Jerry Seinfeld

Posts: 767 | Registered: Mar 2013
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been thinking more than twice about restrooms since the weekend.

So I have calls out to IC's in my insurance program today, but true to form I felt the need to process on my own.

I ended up calling a dear friend from college who always has a way of centering me both with her brutal honesty and miraculous insight regarding what seems to motivate me.

After a longish blurtout of what happened, I immediately started to ask her questions about how and why I'm dealing with things the way I am.

In regards to fighting him off, she said: "Jrazz, you have always worked to be present in a moment no matter what. It's what makes you a pain in the ass to people who want to take a break from reality, and a hero to people who are desperately looking for truth. You don't let anyone or anything slide. EVER. Which can be obnoxious sometimes, but at least it's real. I'm not surprised at all that you shoved that fucker."

In regards to my growing shame and unease that people seemed to think I was perfectly fine all weekend when there was something boiling below the surface (new favorite sentiment), she said: "You have spent the last 3 years protecting your daughter from your pain. The way to you talk about the people at SI, I would think you look at them as an extension of Vrazz and felt the need to protect them."

She is a miracle of a friend. I wish I could pay her to be my therapist.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 12:36 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday)]


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17806 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Calling the police local to the area now. Posting here to feel like I'm not alone.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17806 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Virtually holding your hand.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely now alone Jrazz.


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2187 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gave them some info. Apparently they have an incomplete report from that address and someone needs to call me back.

Gosh my heart is pounding. It's just me and Thor in the house today - Merris is having surgery and I have to pick her up in a few hours, and I'm making dinner for Crazz's boss. Being busy is a really good thing right now.

I can't thank you all enough for letting me know that you're here with me.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17806 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Razzie))))

Deep breaths. We got your back.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 1:41 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a hugely courageous thing to do. I hope the information you give them gets this guy off the streets.

And mojo for your doggie too.


Posts: 1731 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge ((HUGS)) to you.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6808 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lifting you up in my thoughts, and hoping the police can capture and prosecute this creep.

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We're here, hon.
Hold steady. ((( Jrazz )))


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sending strength. ((Jrazz))

I'm here to offer any support I can provide, anytime.

got your back


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2978 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Plinker77
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Horrible experience, glad you are okay

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yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still here and thinking of you Jrazz. Hang in there. You're doing great


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

Posts: 2187 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks friends. I'm doing well. Have a very busy evening ahead and looking forward to it. I will report back after the call.

Hugs to all.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17806 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinking about you...


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4182 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending SI mojo and strength.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52585 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((Razzie)))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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