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User Topic: How long do you get to call it a NB?
Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

7 yrs out, happily remarried, and a very, very different person now.

I'm so excited. I volunteered to coach the 3rd and 4th grade soccer team my boys are on! I know very little about soccer, but it's only 6 games, and I made it my goal lately to step out of my comfort zone and try new things. So, here I am.

And, I just really feel like it is a new beginning thing. I never would have done this before. First of all, I don't volunteer for things. Second, I spent about the first 25 yrs of my life being told, first by my parents, then by my ex husband, I couldn't do things. I was incapable, incompetent, whatever. When I tried, all "support" was them showing up and talking louder than I did, until nobody even saw me anymore. And, third, I have been heavy for a long time. I honestly would have thought every person was watching thinking "what does the fat girl know about sports?"

Now, trying to figure me out, and find my happy has me trying lots of knew things. I volunteer for everything. I've learned, I can do it. Whatever it is. And, people still yell over me, I've just learned to give a cool stare and a "shut up" and it works. Finally, after a year of working out 6-10 hours a week, and 40 pounds lost, I may still be heavy, but I can outrun my kids.

So, maybe I'm too far out for this to count as a NB. But, it sure feels like one. And, honestly, one of the things I've tried over the last 7 years I'm most excited about. New beginnings aren't just about dating and new loves.

Who else has found an unexpected new beginning?


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 8

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


Posts: 4487 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Indiana
norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great! And just in time for you to watch the US play Belgium in the world cup today


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4190 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a NB for sure. Awesome post!


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7697 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
ManBearDivorce
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great. Great that it doesn't stop. Mine never stops. I have found greatness in fixing up cars now to pass up time. Before it was just tinkering. Now it's like meditating.

Posts: 342 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: St.Paul Minnesota
tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think everyday that one lives an authentic life is a new beginning adventure.

Good luck with the team, coach!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4656 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's funny you should ask. I realized that the 9 year anniversary of my D just passed and my only thought was that really it's the 9 year anniversary of when MY LIFE really became my own. It's not a NB anymore. It's just my life. My very own life.


Keep calm and carry on.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It had better be forever, or I'll have to find a different place to say stupid things.

I'm loving your life, Weatherly. You deserve all the happiness in the world.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20229 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm 6 years out and I still feel like there are new post dday experiences to notice. Stuff that shows I'm taking my power back and I'm not ground down or defeated by that old shit storm. So keep sharing your NB experiences, Weatherly. They're inspiring!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5835 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
strawblond30
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just posted other day what new things , hobbies have you done since your divorce . Such inspiration . Glad your finically happy with yourself .


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

my only thought was that really it's the 9 year anniversary of when MY LIFE really became my own. It's not a NB anymore. It's just my life. My very own life.

Exactly. That was how I felt recently. It was weird. and awesome.

I'm loving your life,

Me too, it pretty much rocks. I think the people who have been here as long as me (or about) really kind of get it, in my situation. Because, you guys knew me before.

Stuff that shows I'm taking my power back and I'm not ground down or defeated by that old shit storm.

Exactly!


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 8

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


Posts: 4487 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Indiana
kap2014
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is absolutely wonderful to hear. I'm new here, but the support from people thus far has been incredible. Your story, as well as a few of the others are truly inspirational.

I never thought id be here, and its low. Hearing your story quick story makes me very happy for you and I want to say don't stop! I hope to follow your pattern but on my own path!


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