Topic: I think I just got a very important message
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Member # 43672
| Posted: 5:17 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014|
I am sitting in a cafe in my work neighborhood waiting for a few sandwiches to take back to work for SFGary & me. I have been sitting here trying to calm down because I just got off the phone with a lender that I thought we were working with, who just now advised me that we aren't profitable enough to get the business loan we need in order to open up a second location. I was wallowing in self pity.
A very disabled man in a wheelchair approached me, and I thought he wanted to get past me, so I scooted my chair in. He was unable to talk, and it looked like he was only able to move one hand. He pointed to some french fries on the floor a few times. I still didn't understand what he wanted until I saw his glove on the floor. I walked over, picked up his glove, turned it rightside out, and then he wanted me to help him put it on. So I did. Afterwards he shook my hand four different ways. I went back to my table, and he went to leave. After he wheeled around my chair again he stopped at my table, waved at me, and left.
I had been sitting feeling sorry for myself, poor me. Business doesn't work quite right, marriage is a real challenge, kids are off from school and are fighting with each other a lot. And I have nothing to feel bad about. I have small setbacks, but will pull myself up, and move myself forward. I am very grateful that I am able to do this. I have no real adversity in my life. I just learned a very valuable lesson.
Me: FBW, 48. Him: SAFWH, 56 (SFGary)
3 fantastic kids: DS 16, DS 14, DD 10
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.
Working hard at R.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use me up, cut me down, build a boat and sail away?
Posts: 31 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: San Francisco
Member # 16671
| Posted: 5:25 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014|
And, in the middle of all that, you were able to step outside your grief, and help someone in need.
Don't be too hard on yourself. Just because your challenges may not be as troubling as his, they are still your challenges.
Just keep them in perspective. It will all work out.
Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)
Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.
Posts: 4625 | Registered: Oct 2007
Member # 18449
| Posted: 5:41 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014|
Awwwww... that's awesome!
Posts: 11413 | Registered: Mar 2008
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 5:51 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014|
You were visited by what people call an angel. I'm so glad you received the message.
I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.
Posts: 19809 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 22934
| Posted: 5:55 PM, July 1st (Tuesday), 2014|
What Sad said, for sure.
"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle
Posts: 1028 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
Member # 16024
| Posted: 6:15 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
Great post, thanks for sharing.
Take up your space (and do it well).
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Posts: 36661 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 24210
| Posted: 7:12 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
You were visited by what people call an angel.
Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.
Posts: 2013 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 20563
| Posted: 9:29 AM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014|
Agree with SadinAz
Great that you saw the lesson, so many do not
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6440 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
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