I am sorry you have reason to join us, but am glad that you found this site this time around. This is a wonderful and supportive community. The betrayed men on this site are especially awesome and will give you fantastic advice from the male perspective. We are ALL here to help you navigate this awful time of your life.
First things first, take care of yourself. Drink plenty of water, try to eat, sleep, and exercise. See a doctor or use OTC sleep aids if you need help! This is a terrible roller coaster and you will need your strength and sanity!
I'm so sorry to hear what your wife has put you through. Wishing you lots of strength! Keep posting.