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User Topic: 11's great week
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While my sweet little boy, 11, has been far less vocal about how he hates living with his mom during the week, he keeps saying that when he turns 14 he wants to move in here permanently and go to high school in the city.

All this week, he has been living here while he goes to Science Camp at the nearby university. It has been great! I just love having him around. He has ADHD, and often has problems relating to other kids - I think they find his superfocus/nonfocus a little hard to take by times. Sometimes I even find it difficult.

On his first day of camp, I was telling his instructor about his ADHD, but said that he has no problem paying attention when it's something he is interested in. She confided that she also has ADHD and was ONLY interested in science as a kid, so she totally understands. I felt like I was leaving him in good hands. He gave me a fantastic smile when I said, "Have a good day at university", as I left.

When I picked him up. THREE kids said, "See ya later, 11!" Better yet, the next morning as I dropped him off, they called him over to the table they were sitting at. I can't remember the last time I felt so happy! 11 has found his people: Future Science Geeks!

And he even excitedly told me, "I'm the only white kid in my group!" That's something that wouldn't happen in the village his mom lives in.

But here's the part where I get to be selfishly happy: He was talking about a section of town that one of his new friends lives in. It's not far from our apartment. 11 said, "So I told him that he lives near where I live!"

I've always worried that this apartment seems like a place my boys visit, in contrast to their "home" with The Princess. It warmed my heart when he says he lives here. I'm not trying to compete with the other house - it would just be great if this place had somewhat equal standing! It looks like it may have!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a current science geek, it is wonderful to finally find a place among like minded people. Especially after being around people who don't get you or your dorky jokes.

Yay for an awesome week!


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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's heartwarming, I needed that, thanks.

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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So now he kind of has neighborhood friends? I'd say that's a good sign. Maybe he could even have playdates with his new friend?


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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand the joy of seeing your child "find their people." My oldest is ADHD w/Aspurgers, total science and Manga/Anime geek. See's like an alien to your average suburban high schooler, but when she visits the mother ship...

I also get the part about your place being "home" for them. What he's really saying is that you are home! That's all about where they feel safe and loved.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also get the part about your place being "home" for them. What he's really saying is that you are home! That's all about where they feel safe and loved.

Thanks, Gem. I like thinking of it that way!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We science geeks can be very accepting of others


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