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User Topic: Hard to move
inshockandhurt
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does anyone else ever get so sad it feels like it's hard to move? I feel like that today. I am so sad and my limbs feel heavy and I just want to lay down and sleep.


Me: 29 BS
Him:31 WS
D-day1: caught July-ish of 05
D-day2: caught 2/17/13 6 month EA/PA
Both were with friends of mine
2 sons
Trying to reconcile

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past."


Posts: 278 | Registered: Mar 2013
3kids30years
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you.

Some days I just lie on my bed and space out, try not to think. Just be me

Looks like we joined about the same time - maybe it's a phase?


BS - mid 50's
WH - mid 50's
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm
2year+ "passionate" EA/PA

Married 30+ years and here I am. Heartbroken.
4/14 Trying to make it thru each day
9/14 - getting better. Damn!


Posts: 215 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Nor Cal
FixYou71
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes. Many, many times. Heartache is exhausting and takes its toll.
Im sorry you're hurting so much today. If you can, just let it ride. Feel what you need and sleep if you're sleepy. Take care of yourself.


BS: 43
H: 49
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 21 and DS 17
Married 1993

Posts: 451 | Registered: Mar 2014
ItsJust2Painful
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

More times than not. The only thing that helps me is...moving.


Me: BW, 28
Him: WH, 29
DD: 11/21/2013
EA/PA 6 months while I was pregnant with DS1, So many EAs over 3 years - who knows how many? more than 50, less than 100.
DS#1 born 8/13, DS#2 due 9/14

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jul 2014
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, July 3rd (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, it happened to me. I have learned to listen to my body. If I feel like laying in a fetal position on the floor I do so. Of course I also get help from books, SI, therapy.

With me if I pretend like the feelings aren't there and rug sweep, those darn feelings come back only worse.

I try to feel and process those feelings the first time. It does take time to get through the shit sandwich we were served. But I tell you, it is a lot better on the other side.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2688 | Registered: Jan 2010
MissTrust
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Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All the time
I want to sleep all the time too

Posts: 75 | Registered: May 2014
Blanket
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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is literally paralysing at times. I can't move , talk, eat even simple tasks are a challenge.
Exhausting.


D day 20th may 2014
Me -BS (33)
HIM- WS (35)
OW- 18 yr old COW
Together 7 years, married 1

I can't tell if it's killing me or making me stronger


Don't kick me when I'm down because when I get back up you are f****d!


Posts: 75 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Uk
tfkeel
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is literally paralysing at times. I can't move , talk, eat even simple tasks are a challenge.

It nearly ruined my relationship to a good client and took my business income significantly down the year of DD.


Posts: 464 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Pennsylvania
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes, it seems that it hits when I really don't want it too.

If I could only feel like that at 4am!

Sometimes the exhaustion is overwhelming, on days off I have had to just lie down and then end up sleeping for 3 or 4 hours, unable to get up.

I just go with it when I can. I think our bodies need it.


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced 8/5/14


Posts: 1361 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
funnyguy
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know , sometimes I feel like I can't even feel the lower prt of my body.

Posts: 119 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Ontario Canada
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