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User Topic: Please talk me off the ledge!!
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you want to do something to that makes you feel better why not treat yourself to a spa day or a movie you've been wanting to go see? Do something nice for yourself. Put yourself first.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
OakStreet
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Member # 41193
Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the sort of thread that dubious counselors should read. Some apparently think,we're just a bunch of amateur meddlers. This keeps me here.

^^ So very true!


Me: 58
Him: 65
Married: 21 years (well, we'll say 19 now!).
One son: 19, 2 adult stepdaughters
DDay: Oct. 14, 2013
18 month EA/PA with COW
Dday #2: 4/16/14 - took it underground for 5 months.
Haven't decided on outcome.

Posts: 429 | Registered: Nov 2013
painfulpast
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Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I'm texting with an old friend. He's gay - fully, totally, completely. We share beauty routines, guy talk, etc. He also lives on the other side of the country.

This is a MUCH better outlet!!

Thanks again everyone. I'm certain I'm be knee deep in some situation that would haunt me forever. Thanks to all my superheros


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1893 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
AML04
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Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 6:01 AM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go pp!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 852 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job!!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
deena04
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go pp! Beauty tips are awesome and make you feel great about yourself. It beats going out and cheating. Proud of you for making the better call.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 948 | Registered: Dec 2013
Didact
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Member # 42867
Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, July 5th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Such great advice.

This is the sort of thread that dubious counselors should read. Some apparently think,we're just a bunch of amateur meddlers.

True indeed.


No matter how painful, life either adapts or it dies.

BH (Me) 49
WW 48
Married 1985
D-Day Mar 19, 2014
1 year passionate EA/PA, ended by me on d-day.
Attempting to R


Posts: 230 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: United States
painfulpast
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Member # 41038
Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, August 5th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm bumping this for 2 reasons:

First - a HUGE thank you to all the superheroes that swooped in and saved me from making a VERY bad decision. There is no getting even, and I know this. I could go out with every man out there (single, of course!) and it wouldn't change what WH did. It wouldn't take away the insecurity or the pain. It just wouldn't. Nothing will. There is no getting even, there is only going deeper in the hole.

Second - Everyone always says when things are bad, post! Well, I did, and it stopped me from making what I knew was a big mistake but I was so 'in the moment' that it sounded like a double win - hurting WH and getting an ego boost - instead of the major loss it would have been for me.

SI is just awesome!! Thanks for always being here


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1893 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
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