So for the first honoree, I would like to nominate cantaccept. In a very short time, she went from trying her ass off for R, alone, while WH lied, and sadly, cheated. She held it together, She threw him out. She moved on with her life. He's back now, wanting another chance. Maybe she will, maybe she won't, but for now, she deserves our recognition for being so much stronger than she ever thought she was
Here's to you, cantaccept!!! Whooooooooo!!!
The *why* probably isn't necessary.
Also a couple of old-timer guys, and a few BW's and WW's from days past.
I don't know. I could probably go on and on....
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Bufffalo for his sage advice in the early days.
Superduper wonderboy for his humour.
And DS and the gang for actually giving us this special place in the first place.
And anyone else I have forgotten to mention who has stood by me through the crap times, the early days, the lies and the R and the happily ever after times.
And a big shout out to SISTERMILKSHAKE who can offer me sound advice whilst I am peeing my pants laughing at her posts. I love you SMS.
Everyday we see strength and courage shining through during the most desperate of times.
The love and care, be it from hugs or 2x4's , is genuine.
I couldn't begin to name one or two without coming up with names I missed.
It takes a strong person to go through this......so I have to say I am proud of all the survivors here. ♡
I am proud of everyone here
Everyone here brings with them something special to this site. While there are some here that have made a greater impact on my healing than others, as I stick around I find that each and every member is a treasure. To exclude any of them from my list would be totally impossible and unfair to them. The combination of all these treasures posting and sharing on this site is what makes this community on SI possible.
The healing stories are all different yet all of great value. From the new member that has the strength to start the 180 all the way through the member that has battled their healing journey and has moved on. There are thousands that have come before us and blazed the trail to help shape the wisdom and guidance of the healing process. There are hundreds that are on the healing journey taking time from their situation to help guide those just arriving here. Impressing on them the great example to give back.
So no matter if you are new here or a old time veteran; a betrayed, a wayward, or a madhatter; divorced or reconciling; serious or funny; eloquent with words or speak with simple straight forward answers, you are the ones that I am most proud of. Thank you for being you and making this site what it is.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
So many wonderful people are here. Shout outs to some wouldn't be fair (in my eyes) to the hundreds and thousands of others who have helped me. A virtual hug and knowing I wasn't alone, was an amazing feeling.
Everybody who comes here either on a regular basis or just to check in occasionally is the member I am most proud of.
I am proud of all of us for the growth we are showing on a regular basis. You are all my heroes.
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
There are so many, and for so many different reasons. Some members kick me in my ass when I need it, or give me a shoulder to cry on. Some are so sweet and yet so strong and so beautiful and they don't even know it.
I have "met" some of the most amazing people because of SI and I gain strength from all of them.
I try very hard to pay it forward to members who come on this site in similar situations than mine (ex cheating with same-sex) because I felt SO alone. So very alone. I just want to help and show people we can survive anything.
After you survive...then you thrive.
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
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Seriously, I am very thankful to those old members who continue to post to help we newbies with our problems even though their days of constant woe and sorrow are behind them. Too many arrive calling in the cavalry then disappear.
Especially Bigger who summarizes wisdom for JFO members with his "chose to stay or go, but you can't go as my spouse" words. If there is one phrase that summarizes what JFOs need to know,,it's that one.
There are old-timers who got me through my pain, and I hope I helped others, and I see newer people helping others right in front of my eyes.
Member number 45000, who hasn't joined yet, may be the one with thoughts and insight that helps countless others.
We're all in this together.
However, there is one member that really sticks out. He was dealt a shitty hand, and then another, and another. Throughout all of it, he handled himself with dignity, and self respect. Many told him that he was doing an amazing job, and he was.
SWAT70, my hat is off to you sir!
Confused615, I'm honored, thank you. At the risk of t/j'ing, the kindness and acceptance you, Can, bionicgal, Kajem, DixieD, many other BW, have shown me here is overwhelming
and the list could go on and on. On second thought, can one of the admins just post everyone's name on my behalf?
I am so proud of us all, whether BS, WS or even an OP we have come here to seek help for ourselves and to be of service to others. That is such a huge step no matter who you are or where you are in this process.
Losfer, who is a great man with wonderful insight.
BMC, for loving the OCs created by her H and OW, even loving them after finding out 2 of the 3 were not her H's.
So many others, who took in children conceived from infidelity and showed those children love, and gave them a functioning adult to look up to. I don't know that everyone is capable of such compassion, and it gives me hope.
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