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User Topic: Found my WH back at it
Seriouslystomped
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Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So WH left today to go fishing/camping with a friend until Tuesday. We have had been sleeping in separate rooms while we try to work things out and are both in IC. He wants to R and seems to be trying. Swears he is not gay or bi just wants us to work. I am trying to slowly build something but can't trust yet. So, I just have a funny feeling tonight and I go in the room and start looking through everything. Guess what I find behind the TV. Porn videos and and a good sized toy.. Oh, and one of the videos was Transvesites!! . I don't know why I should be shocked at this but I am. He has gone from women to men to this. So much for him swearing he is not using porn which was supposedly an excuse why the last A happened. I am grossed out


Me: BS 56
Him: WS 53, SA
Dday 1 10/06 whore from past
Dday 2 09/13 random guy he met

I know why the caged bird sings.


Posts: 8 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Nevada
FightingBack
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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SeriouslyStomped,

I am in no position to give any advice, but my heart goes out to you. Your H needs help. I am sure you are both in pain and I'm so sorry.


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

Posts: 785 | Registered: Feb 2012
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 12:55 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SS..I'm so sorry. What are you going to do?


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5141 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
FixYou71
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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. My heart sinks for you. I cant imagine. I am curious how he has been acting since your last dday. Did you think he was truly remorseful or did you have reservations about wether it was just regret for being found out? Were there requirements/consequences placed in him after dday? I read your posts to try to learn more but there are only a few.
My heart truly goes out to you. I am so sorry.


BS: 43
H: 49
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 21 and DS 17
Married 1993

Posts: 451 | Registered: Mar 2014
FightingBack
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Default  Posted: 1:12 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just read your other posts also. And I've changed my mind about giving advice.

Run.

As a Christian, I don't believe that we have to stay in a bad situation because it is the Lord's plan for us. He gave us free will to make choices. And He will help those who help themselves.

Look at it this way. His plan may be for you to change your life course. Forgive if you feel that it is a Christian requirement, but look to truth and light for your own sake and leave the pain and darkness behind.


((((Hugs to you))))


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

Posts: 785 | Registered: Feb 2012
worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best advice I was given...............Sometimes you can't save him but you can save yourself. Get tested!!!!


Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly.

Posts: 463 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Texas
Sunnydaysahead
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry for your pain. Has your H been to an IC who specializes in SA?

Please get tested! Stay strong...


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