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Tesa
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I woke up three times last night in the middle of a dream about OW. 3 times in the same dream. Does it ever stop??

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Stample
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dreamt of OW a few times.
I remember my last dream of her: she was sitting on a bed, being very nice to me and I sucker punched her, but then I was afraif that she files a report so I was trying to be nice to her... After punching her.


Me 27
Him 28: EA/PA with OW (09/2012 to 06/2013)

My Dday 06/2014

Storms don't last forever


Posts: 32 | Registered: Jul 2014
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No dreams of her what so ever...thank GOD!
I do wish I could have seen her the moment she got thrown under the bus though!


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 678 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
Deeply Scared
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Red  Posted: 10:39 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys...

If you continue to use this as a vent thread, we're going to be forced to move it to General.

The original author posted in the Recon forum for a reason, please respect it.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dream about potential other women... ugh.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


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Tesa
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Perhaps it is related to 'A' season or that she hasn't contacted H in 4 months? (last contact was a blocked call to inform him that she bought a house, with her post A-husband and baby. He has since changed his number and magically the phone calls appeared to have stopped).

The dream was of past events.

It's hard to let go when my own subconscious pulls me back in. Now, today, I'm stuck in the past, mentally replaying those months.

I am not the type to look for deep meaning in my dreams however, I do see that often my dreams are "wake up calls" for things happening now. But, these were dreams of the past?

[This message edited by Tesa at 2:30 PM, July 7th (Monday)]


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Hrtbrken1
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tesa, that's a good question. Right after DDay I dreamed of her at least once a week. Sometimes more. As the years have gone by, it's been less frequent. It still happens, but they're not the body-freezing nightmares I use to have. It's more of a "oh, it's blah-blah". She's just another person who shows up. I don't have the dreams when I'm triggered, it was always a bit of a shock to have them for no reason (besides, you know, the whole cheating thing ). I no longer fear she'll be showing up in them any longer, as opposed to 2 or 3 years ago when I would dread bedtime.


Me-BW
Him-WH
Together 16 years, married 10.
DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 144 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
courageouscat
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it Tesa. It's always surprising to me when this happens. I had a dream about OW out of the blue just a couple of days ago. It's not the same as mind movies. It's usually just some random dream with OW in it. For me, the dreams always have her on the edges of our life...in a rented house or room...just visiting or trying to weasel in. I usually tell her to go away and she says something nasty to me or she or H says that she is sticking around for awhile. It usually is related to affair season or a time of the year when it is possible I could run in to her. For me, it's just my brain trying to work something out.


ME - 50 something
WH - 50 something
Kids - 3 boys, Adult, Teen, Teen
Married - 26 years
Together - 29 years
EA 10/11 -12/11; 100% NC 1/18/11

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