I know you want to believe that he really does love you and wants to change. But his actions show that he can't really love in the same way you do--he only wants to be able to use and manipulate you and call it love.
It is a harsh, harsh wake-up call and I am so sorry for your pain. But the way out is through. Stick to your guns and you will discover a new, confident, strong Jomarion on the other side.
You can do this. You are worth more than he can give you.
Norabird, I know it is hard to believe from my wishy-washiness here in these posts, but before I met this family, I was known as a strong, confident, positive person! I am in the arts, and even when I got horrible reviews in public newspapers I was able to shrug it off. (inside I am scared shitless of people, but at least the image I portrayed was that!)
When they slander and malign, it eats away at your confidence, slowly, so you do not even know it is happening. I never was afraid to stand up for the ones being bullied, I was one tough woman. That is how I came to meet my WBF - I saw he was being exploited, and I wanted to help.
Typical co-dependent? Probably. But I have helped others, and this had never happened. My ex has helped many people in trouble too, it never happened to him. He is retired professor, and he meets many teens, many troubled ones too in serious crisis, did years of university interviews of teenagers, but he said he has never met children as manipulative and conniving as these. I was conned by them in the beginning. It was only my ex who saw what they were about and warned me.
He saw my WBF as just a man being tricked by his kids, and too weak to control them.
I, on the other hand, have done incredible amounts of work for him, translation work, phone calls, and then when his brat kids got into trouble, helping with the police. He would have lost his kids a long time ago if I had not come into the situation to 'save the day'. That is why it hurts very very much when now they malign and slander me and push his dad to cheat when they do not need me anymore.
I have never known people like this before.
At least I won't be drinking coffee with spit in it anymore. That was one of the things the brats liked to do, they admitted to me in a confiding moment. Was not sure it was true until I actually SAW the 17 year old make coffee for me and her dad,and spit in one of the cups! I thought' who is getting that one, I wonder?' Turns out it was for the dad. Why did I not say anything? By then I had been conditioned that if I said anything it would be denied and the focus of anger would then fall on me ('that horrible Jomarion is picking on me again! Waaaa!')
At least by drinking their spit I picked up a lot of antibodies against them.