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User Topic: I know crickets is best. This email just angers me. Vent.
She11ybeanz
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Flame  Posted: 2:27 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I'm marking my email receipt for my entry into my 4th marathon (Richmond)for this coming November 15th, 2014 and putting it into my important file (I asked for race entries for my birthday - only a runner right? )

Anyhow... I came across an email that apparently my daugther's sperm donor sent this past May 27th:

Hey michelle i would like to reenter ur life..i understand if u dont care and want me to leave u only which i will...i have my own house...back to sub 20 min 5k runner...i run for american cancer society...they wanted me to run for them. Call me at 540 XXX-XXX

First off, I would like to point out that I have not spoken to him since last May when I saw him at social services and HIS child....or let me re-phrase, MY child was 9 months old at the time. He has not seen her or asked about her since then. And, in the above email he does not ask about her yet again! WTH!

2nd off, he's a big fat liar.....(big surprise as he has always been a pathological liar) because on July 4th I ran into him (the day after my birthday) at a 5k race! My 1st of the year and the 1st time I had seen him in over a year! He actually saw me and spoke to me briefly just bringing up that he is starting to run again and is aiming for around 26 minutes. I didn't say anything in return and just gave him a blank expression.

He tried to pass me about a half mile into the race. My inner redheaded bitch side kicked in and I picked up my pace and passed him and ended up beating him by 2 minutes with a time of 24:37. He got 26:30 something..... so if he was a sub-20 minute 5k runner, he should have been way outta my sight for the entire race. Period. I won't lie......it was elating kicking his ass in a 5k. I never have because he was always faster than me.....but that one was for Piper. Momma made her proud that day.

I don't know what his motive is....but I will NEVER be with him again and have no desire to do so. I would rather be single for the rest of my life than subject myself and my daughter to his BS ever again.

Whew....okay. Steam blown. Feel better. Crickets he shall receive.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 2:30 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
IrishGirlVA
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just his grammar and punctuation alone would make me want to flee. So is this an email he sent back in May that you never read or you came across it again?

Does he really have his own house? I find that hard to believe considering his supposed financial issues! I guess his pathological lying trait kicked in.

As much as I know you would love to find a wonderful partner, this guy is there to remind you how wonderful it is to be single!!

On a side note, the department I work in always volunteers to work the Richmond marathons. Hopefully you'll be here running in November!


Me, the "B": 42yo
Him, the "W": 38yo
DDay: June 2013
Status: Over

Posts: 348 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Virginia
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha. He was feeling lonely, and evidently his normal feeders of ego kiblets were not available, so he was trying some old stand by's.

What an idiot.

Glad you kicked his ass. You are too AWESOME!!!!


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8792 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So is this an email he sent back in May that you never read or you came across it again?

Yes, I was saving my Richmond marathon receipt as I send all my junk email or receipts to my old email address to keep my primary one low on spam. And, as ironic as it was.....I came across EX-spam!

Does he really have his own house? I find that hard to believe considering his supposed financial issues! I guess his pathological lying trait kicked in.

No, The only way he has his own house is if his momma died and left him hers and I saw her at his race.....or her back anyways. And, yes, most definitely a LIE! He lied about being a former Marine, a cage fighter, having a black belt in Ju Jitzu (if I spelled that wrong I'm sorry).... he has no problem with lying. Its like a 2nd job....oh wait....he's unemployed. I guess his primary one then!

As much as I know you would love to find a wonderful partner, this guy is there to remind you how wonderful it is to be single!!

Most freakin definitely. I am reminded that I am a sex camel after reading that email!

On a side note, the department I work in always volunteers to work the Richmond marathons. Hopefully you'll be here running in November!

Yes! I will be there on November 15th with the intention of rematching the course as I got my worse time of 5:05 there in 2011 when I was 3 weeks preggo with Piper (unbeknownst to me)

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 3:22 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha. He was feeling lonely, and evidently his normal feeders of ego kiblets were not available, so he was trying some old stand by's.

What an idiot.

Glad you kicked his ass. You are too AWESOME!!!!

Oh yeah. Beating him at that 5k by over 2 minutes after him sending me an email professing his amazing 5k abilities and being a sponsored runner by the American Cancer Society (he's going to hell for that lie btw! ) was AWESOME! He probably heard his ego deflating as I disappeared from view in front of him! I hope he enjoyed the view! That's all he gets!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, what a lying asshole!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6923 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SpermdonorDouchenozzle, Your arse must be so jealous of all of that shit that comes out of your mouth.

There are no fish in this pond.
This pond has no water.
Fuck Off.

.... Sex camel.

How can you walk this earth without knowing or supporting your own child? I just don't get it. I'd rather that than someone who fucks with my kids head so he's probably doing you and Piper a favour. But dayuuum. All of those words and not one question about her?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5658 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd rather that than someone who fucks with my kids head so he's probably doing you and Piper a favour. But dayuuum. All of those words and not one question about her?

He's definitely doing us a favor. I'm glad he is not in her life. I know that most likely the day will come when she will want to meet him..... and I just hope and pray that I can instill enough love and wisdom upon her that she can make her own intelligent judgement on the type of man that he is and why she is or is not glad he was not an active part in her life. And, I hope she always knows that I love her and have tried to make sure she never felt any void. I will love her til I die.... and beyond. She will always have her momma.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do we still have the urge to break NC when we know it is wrong? I'm not going to do it but I won't lie....its killing me. I want to yell at him and tell him what a liar he is and tell him to leave us alone and never contact me again! But, I know that any contact will make him happy.....even negative contact.

God. Give. Me. Strength.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You haven't seen or heard from him in ages so I'd say you aren't NC Match Fit, IYKWIM?

I'm a ninja NC-er unless I am goaded on the wrong day. He goads me ALL.THE.TIME. That wrong day happens once every few months. I'm getting better because I remember how shit it felt breaking NC the last time.

He was a POS long before you read his email and he will be a POS long after. There's no need to state the obvious.

Plus, it has been over a month since he sent it. If you respond that fucker will think you read it ages ago and have been stewing since. My ego couldn't stand that.

Right now he's wondering if you got it, if he sent it, if you're ignoring him or if it got lost.

Don't solve that mystery for him. Even if he asks.

Sit on your hands. Go beat something up, scrub something or watch something that makes you laugh out loud. I've used this one for almost a decade. Gets me out of my funk every single time.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CQo2FJPLeQk

ETA: who says "re-enter your life" anyway? Creepazoid. Nigerian scammers read gooder and are more poetic. Treat this as you would one of those.

[This message edited by SBB at 9:00 AM, July 9th (Wednesday)]


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5658 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
She11ybeanz
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What?  Posted: 9:37 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right now he's wondering if you got it, if he sent it, if you're ignoring him or if it got lost.

Actually, a creepy thing happened after I read his email. LITERALLY, like maybe within 10 minutes of reading it..... I got another email....except it was like a "text" email? Have you ever seen one of those? He used his Verizon phone number to email me and the email came up as his phone number in a gmail account? The only reason I knew it was him was because he put his new phone number in his original message. All the message said was was "Hey" but it totally creeped me out....

It was like he had an invisible read receipt on the other message and KNEW I had read it.... I didn't respond to either and have no intentions of doing so. Stalker.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How can you walk this earth without knowing or supporting your own child?

I don't get this either. At ALL.

(Sorry I keep crashing the NB forum but I just had to reply).

I bet he DID have a read-receipt on it. What a creep! I'd be so tempted to call him out on his lies but yeah crickets is almost always best.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6923 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is so tempting to call them on their lies. But he knows you know it's a lie, since he saw you speed past him--let that be enough.


((((Shelly))))


Sit. Feast on your life.

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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

Something tells me I know where you got your tag line from....lol

You don't need me to tell you that you don't need this piece of shit in your life but if he is "back into" running you may have to face the fact that you will be running into him at races. Maybe you need to nip it in the bud and tell him straight "Fuck Off" and not have to worry about him trying to approach you or bother you when you go to enjoy your passion...running.

You are a great Mum and don't need the stress of worrying about an asshole like him....HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't get it either. He didn't even MENTION her!!?? Ask about her? NOTHING. FUCK HIM! I will never EVER give him the satisfaction of an acknowledgement of his existence ever again since he cannot even acknowledge the fact that he has a 3rd child on this planet that he helped create and doesn't support or even claim her existence. He lives under this delusional narcisstic rock where life revolves around him and his actions never have consequences. I pity him. His mother has enabled him for so long that he is as helpless as a newborn baby without her constant care and coddling.... and when she dies of cancer....and she is dying of cancer and when his father is gone.... it will be like a deflating life vest on a child that cannot swim.... and he will sink like a rock into his normal drunken binge drinking stupor until he gets alcohol poisoning. His future is bleak. And, he will NOT bring us down with him. I'd like to stomp on that rock he keeps trying to crawl out from under.....or at least park a bigfoot truck on top of it.

Maybe I am being mean..... or maybe I just think I am because I am not a blunt person. But this is the non-sugar coated truth of what I believe is going to happen to him. I hate that his mother is dying.... despite her horrible treatment towards my daughter at 9 months at Social Services when my sister tried to let her hold her and she growled loudly "I DON'T WANT HER!!!" BUT..... I would not wish cancer on my worse enemy. It is an unbias and terrible disease. It kills any and all types of people.... good intended or not. I don't think karma has anything to do with it. But, she made it clear that she did not want to make amends with Piper and I before she dies specifically to sperm donor's ex-wife (whom I am still in contact with for our kids since they are related). She can explain her grudge holding reasons for turning her back on an innocent child to the holy gates. If she sees them at all.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 10:07 AM, July 9th (Wednesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He didn't even MENTION her!!?? Ask about her? NOTHING. FUCK HIM! I will never EVER give him the satisfaction of an acknowledgement of his existence ever again since he cannot even acknowledge the fact that he has a 3rd child on this planet that he helped create and doesn't support or even claim her existence.

You've come so far!

Also, be really happy he isn't around. It is horrible watching the mind fuckery my XWH and the OW are doing to my two wonderful sons. Until they get married, he has no overnights, but when they get married, they will have an even bigger influence on my children. And update,,, my sons had it out with their dad a couple weeks ago and are not going over there this week. I could call him and bitch him out,, but I thank God for the time the kids are not with him...

Your daughter will grow up to be a very strong, caring, smart woman -- just like her Mom.


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. I hope so. I try to give her twice the love and twice my attention! As much as I can working full-time. The time I DO have with her....she KNOWS she is loved!

I'm glad he is not around her. She is better off. It sickens me to hear stories of his other 2 children TRYING to be a part of his life and him just letting them down over and over again. A horrible vicious cruel cycle. They deserve better and so does Piper. She's got me and that's all she needs...


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shelly,

Still feeling the urge to respond? Write it and don't send it. It really works getting rid of the feelings that come after having contact with flucktard.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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