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User Topic: Thankfulness and Mindfulness - Gateway to Self Healing
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No matter how far out you are from DDay, training your brain to think about things that lift you up is essential to healing. I forget to do it as often as I should, so I thought it would be good practice for us to step outside the betrayal, even if only for a few breaths. I'll try to keep this up for anyone that's interested, and also for myself.

Five Things I'm Thankful For:


7/8/2014


1.) My family

2.) Sunsets

3.) Strawberry Rhubarb Pie

4.) The amazing turning radius of my Suzuki

5.) Lake Tahoe


"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18292 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
soccermom9
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Member # 43805
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful for:
1. My relationship with Jesus Christ
2. My children and family
3. My home and job
4. My loyal, faithful chocolate lab
5. Bacon! LOL


Me: 44
WH: 43
Dday: 6-20-14
He admitted to drunken sex at massage parlor!
Attempting reconciliation

Posts: 66 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Kentucky
plainpain
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Member # 40139
Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thankful for:

1. New mercies every morning
2. Chocolate
3. Freedom to choose my life
4. Light
5. Jrazz


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 809 | Registered: Jul 2013
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aw shoot.


"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18292 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
tired girl
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Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will play

1. HL
2. My kids
3. My girlfriends
4. My dogs
5. My awesome truck!

[This message edited by tired girl at 9:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5155 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
tl502
♀ Member
Member # 42607
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am very thankful for:
1. My family.
2. Kentucky sunsets.
3. Rainbows. Saw a beautiful one yesterday.
4. My health.
5. My future 1st granddaughter.
Thank you jrazz. I needed this tonight.


Married 30 yrs.
dd1 9/10/2011 ea/pa
DD2 3/25/2013 same ow, never stopped email and phone contact.
Putting the past behind us and moving forward together

Posts: 365 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: tl502
homewrecked2011
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Member # 34678
Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this!

1. My children
2. A steady job
3. The house I got in the divorce
4. Many supportive friends
5. Eating chips and salsa at Chili's with my friends!


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2323 | Registered: Jan 2012
Want2babettrme
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Member # 43291
Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. My Higher Power
2. My sobriety
3. My 12 step group
4. Getting with the right therapist
5. My apartment where I am safe from my abusive spouse.

Posts: 29 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: The Sunny South
Rebreather
♀ Member
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Oreos
2. Wine
3. My fluffy kitty
4. Hiking trails out my back door
5. My boat


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6643 | Registered: Jan 2011
Acer0112
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Member # 43241
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. My kids and family
2. Our health
3. Sunsets, watched the must beautiful one tonight
4. Going to the movies
5. Mexican food


D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids 13, 11
Divorced 10/2014

Posts: 201 | Registered: Apr 2014
painpaingoaway
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Member # 27196
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1) my incredibly dedicated hardworking hubby
2) my fabulous grand babies
3) my DS that may just finally be getting his life back together (he is supposed to move into subsidized housing this WEEK!!!). Yay!
4) my DD that is such a wonderful person, fabulous mother and an absolute joy to our entire family
5) the majesty and bounty of nature


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7135 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Neverwudaguessed
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Member # 41884
Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, what a great idea to refocus. Thank you, as you already know I needed this today…

1) The health of my two children

2) The beautiful flowers in my garden that continue to return each year

3) My unborn nephew, due at the end of October

4) Our beautiful beaches

5) The opportunity to discover more about myself as I shift my focus


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 731 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
bionicgal
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Member # 39803
Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. My son & husband
2. Hope/Faith
3. coffee
4.Peonies
5. soccer


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2144 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
HFSSC
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Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. My Kingdom Man, JMSSC, who continues to blow me away every single day.

2. Our 2 son's, who are kind and smart and devoted to God

3. My sister and brother, who are the two best friends I have ever had

4. My music ministry through my church

5. A job that makes me smile every single day


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2879 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
918Mama
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Member # 37756
Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Jesus
2. My family. All of them! :-)
2. The health and happiness in our home
3. Perspective
4. Summing night swimming and comfy jammies and pizza cookies


Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

Posts: 600 | Registered: Dec 2012
Breathing Heals
♀ New Member
Member # 34701
Default  Posted: 1:43 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. My health
2. People who love me
3. Having fun with children
4. Trees
5. Laughter


Multiple NSAs, R that never got off the ground, guess I should have known. I was in R, he was busy...


Posts: 43 | Registered: Feb 2012
OnAnIsland
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Member # 34319
Default  Posted: 2:06 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1) my family

2) the views out of my front and bedroom windows

3) the opportunities to explore the world made possibly by first my mother and her work, then by my own adventures, and now by the path my fWH and I have chosen to follow

4) the oceans and coasts by home and those by family

5) venice


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1479 | Registered: Dec 2011
KatieG
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Member # 41222
Default  Posted: 2:48 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. My amazing son
2. The clouds in the sky
3. My strength
4. People who believe in me
5. My cat


DD#1 - 6th Oct 13 - TT
DD#2 - 9th Nov 13 - Full disclosure
DD#3 - 12th May 14 - FOG lifted and in R
7 week A, 2 weeks together, rest phone and email - PA and EA

Posts: 503 | Registered: Nov 2013
HFSSC
♀ Member
Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 6:01 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and this:

1. SI

2. SI

3. DS and MH

4. SI

5. SI


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2879 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Zengirl
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Member # 42195
Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1) my family

2) thunderstorms

3) homemade ice cream

4) the creek/hiking trails near our house

5) farmers markets


Me (BW): 40
Married: 15 years
3 kids
D-Day: 10/13

Posts: 164 | Registered: Jan 2014
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