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Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 3:28 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
No matter how far out you are from DDay, training your brain to think about things that lift you up is essential to healing. I forget to do it as often as I should, so I thought it would be good practice for us to step outside the betrayal, even if only for a few breaths. I'll try to keep this up for anyone that's interested, and also for myself.
Five Things I'm Thankful For:
7/8/2014
1.) My family
2.) Sunsets
3.) Strawberry Rhubarb Pie
4.) The amazing turning radius of my Suzuki
5.) Lake Tahoe
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
soccermom9 ( member #43805) posted at 3:31 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
I am thankful for:
1. My relationship with Jesus Christ
2. My children and family
3. My home and job
4. My loyal, faithful chocolate lab
5. Bacon! LOL
Me: 44
WH: 43
Dday: 6-20-14
He admitted to drunken sex at massage parlor!
Attempting reconciliation
plainpain ( member #40139) posted at 3:35 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
I am thankful for:
1. New mercies every morning
2. Chocolate
3. Freedom to choose my life
4. Light
5. Jrazz
Me: Believer, 40s
Him: Liar, 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R. It only hurts now when it rains.
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 3:37 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
Aw shoot. 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 3:37 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
I will play 
1. HL
2. My kids
3. My girlfriends
4. My dogs
5. My awesome truck!
[This message edited by tired girl at 9:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
tl502 ( member #42607) posted at 3:38 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
I am very thankful for:
1. My family.
2. Kentucky sunsets.
3. Rainbows. Saw a beautiful one yesterday.
4. My health.
5. My future 1st granddaughter.
Thank you jrazz. I needed this tonight.
Married 35 yrs.
dd1 9/10/2011 ea/pa
DD2 3/25/2013 same ow, never stopped email and phone contact.
Putting the past behind us and moving forward together
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 3:46 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
Thank you for this!
1. My children
2. A steady job
3. The house I got in the divorce
4. Many supportive friends
5. Eating chips and salsa at Chili's with my friends!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Want2babettrme ( new member #43291) posted at 4:20 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. My Higher Power
2. My sobriety
3. My 12 step group
4. Getting with the right therapist
5. My apartment where I am safe from my abusive spouse.
BC due to Dad's affair, BBF due to WX fiance's cheating in LDR.
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 4:28 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. Oreos
2. Wine
3. My fluffy kitty
4. Hiking trails out my back door
5. My boat
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Acer0112 ( member #43241) posted at 4:36 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. My kids and family
2. Our health
3. Sunsets, watched the must beautiful one tonight
4. Going to the movies
5. Mexican food
D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids in middle school
Divorced 10/2014
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 4:36 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1) my incredibly dedicated hardworking hubby
2) my fabulous grand babies
3) my DS that may just finally be getting his life back together (he is supposed to move into subsidized housing this WEEK!!!). Yay!
4) my DD that is such a wonderful person, fabulous mother and an absolute joy to our entire family
5) the majesty and bounty of nature
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Neverwudaguessed ( member #41884) posted at 4:38 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
Oh, what a great idea to refocus. Thank you, as you already know I needed this today…
1) The health of my two children
2) The beautiful flowers in my garden that continue to return each year
3) My unborn nephew, due at the end of October
4) Our beautiful beaches
5) The opportunity to discover more about myself as I shift my focus
BW: 46 Me
WH:50
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 15
DD 13
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 4:49 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. My son & husband
2. Hope/Faith
3. coffee
4.Peonies
5. soccer
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 4:59 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. My Kingdom Man, JMSSC, who continues to blow me away every single day.
2. Our 2 son's, who are kind and smart and devoted to God
3. My sister and brother, who are the two best friends I have ever had
4. My music ministry through my church
5. A job that makes me smile every single day
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
918Mama ( member #37756) posted at 6:34 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. Jesus
2. My family. All of them! :-)
2. The health and happiness in our home
3. Perspective
4. Summing night swimming and comfy jammies and pizza cookies
Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti
Breathing Heals ( new member #34701) posted at 7:43 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. My health
2. People who love me
3. Having fun with children
4. Trees
5. Laughter
Multiple NSAs, R that never got off the ground, guess I should have known. I was in R, he was busy...
OnAnIsland ( member #34319) posted at 8:06 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1) my family
2) the views out of my front and bedroom windows
3) the opportunities to explore the world made possibly by first my mother and her work, then by my own adventures, and now by the path my fWH and I have chosen to follow
4) the oceans and coasts by home and those by family
5) venice
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
KatieG ( member #41222) posted at 8:48 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1. My amazing son
2. The clouds in the sky
3. My strength
4. People who believe in me
5. My cat
DD#1 - Oct 13
"Everyone says forgiveness is a lovely idea, until they have something to forgive" - CS Lewis
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 12:01 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
Oh, and this:
1. SI
2. SI
3. DS and MH
4. SI
5. SI
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
JustShine ( member #42195) posted at 12:34 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014
1) my family
2) thunderstorms
3) homemade ice cream
4) the creek/hiking trails near our house
5) farmers markets
DDay 10/23/13
Me 42, he 44
3 kids
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