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Topic: Thankfulness and Mindfulness - Gateway to Self Healing
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Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349 |  Posted: 9:28 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 |     |
No matter how far out you are from DDay, training your brain to think about things that lift you up is essential to healing. I forget to do it as often as I should, so I thought it would be good practice for us to step outside the betrayal, even if only for a few breaths. I'll try to keep this up for anyone that's interested, and also for myself.
Five Things I'm Thankful For:
7/8/2014
1.) My family
2.) Sunsets
3.) Strawberry Rhubarb Pie
4.) The amazing turning radius of my Suzuki
5.) Lake Tahoe
"The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding." -Dr. B. Rieux
Posts: 19112 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California |
soccermom9
♀ Member
Member # 43805 | | Posted: 9:31 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I am thankful for:
1. My relationship with Jesus Christ
2. My children and family
3. My home and job
4. My loyal, faithful chocolate lab
5. Bacon! LOL
Me: 44
WH: 43
Dday: 6-20-14
He admitted to drunken sex at massage parlor!
Attempting reconciliation
Posts: 66 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Kentucky |
plainpain
♀ Member
Member # 40139 | | Posted: 9:35 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I am thankful for:
1. New mercies every morning
2. Chocolate
3. Freedom to choose my life
4. Light
5. Jrazz
Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.
Posts: 812 | Registered: Jul 2013 |
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349 | | Posted: 9:37 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Aw shoot. 
"The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding." -Dr. B. Rieux
Posts: 19112 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California |
tired girl
♀ Member
Member # 28053 | | Posted: 9:37 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I will play 
1. HL
2. My kids
3. My girlfriends
4. My dogs
5. My awesome truck! [This message edited by tired girl at 9:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]
Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Posts: 5363 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az |
tl502
♀ Member
Member # 42607 | | Posted: 9:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
I am very thankful for:
1. My family.
2. Kentucky sunsets.
3. Rainbows. Saw a beautiful one yesterday.
4. My health.
5. My future 1st granddaughter.
Thank you jrazz. I needed this tonight.
Married 30 yrs.
dd1 9/10/2011 ea/pa
DD2 3/25/2013 same ow, never stopped email and phone contact.
Putting the past behind us and moving forward together
Posts: 512 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: tl502 |
homewrecked2011
♀ Member
Member # 34678 | | Posted: 9:46 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Thank you for this!
1. My children
2. A steady job
3. The house I got in the divorce
4. Many supportive friends
5. Eating chips and salsa at Chili's with my friends!
Keep Calm and Happy On!
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed
Posts: 2442 | Registered: Jan 2012 |
Want2babettrme
♂ New Member
Member # 43291 | | Posted: 10:20 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
1. My Higher Power
2. My sobriety
3. My 12 step group
4. Getting with the right therapist
5. My apartment where I am safe from my abusive spouse.
Posts: 32 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: The Sunny South |
Rebreather
♀ Member
Member # 30817 | | Posted: 10:28 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
1. Oreos
2. Wine
3. My fluffy kitty
4. Hiking trails out my back door
5. My boat
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Posts: 6777 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
Acer0112
♀ Member
Member # 43241 | | Posted: 10:36 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
1. My kids and family
2. Our health
3. Sunsets, watched the must beautiful one tonight
4. Going to the movies
5. Mexican food
D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids in middle school
Divorced 10/2014
Posts: 203 | Registered: Apr 2014 |
painpaingoaway
♀ Member
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 10:36 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
1) my incredibly dedicated hardworking hubby
2) my fabulous grand babies
3) my DS that may just finally be getting his life back together (he is supposed to move into subsidized housing this WEEK!!!). Yay!
4) my DD that is such a wonderful person, fabulous mother and an absolute joy to our entire family
5) the majesty and bounty of nature
me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 34 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Posts: 7187 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
Neverwudaguessed
♀ Member
Member # 41884 | | Posted: 10:38 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Oh, what a great idea to refocus. Thank you, as you already know I needed this today…
1) The health of my two children
2) The beautiful flowers in my garden that continue to return each year
3) My unborn nephew, due at the end of October
4) Our beautiful beaches
5) The opportunity to discover more about myself as I shift my focus
BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11
Posts: 936 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York |
bionicgal
♀ Member
Member # 39803 | | Posted: 10:49 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
1. My son & husband
2. Hope/Faith
3. coffee
4.Peonies
5. soccer
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Posts: 2321 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA |
HFSSC
♀ Member
Member # 33338 | | Posted: 10:59 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
1. My Kingdom Man, JMSSC, who continues to blow me away every single day.
2. Our 2 son's, who are kind and smart and devoted to God
3. My sister and brother, who are the two best friends I have ever had
4. My music ministry through my church
5. A job that makes me smile every single day
Me, 48
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.
Posts: 2998 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina |
918Mama
♀ Member
Member # 37756 | | Posted: 12:34 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
1. Jesus
2. My family. All of them! :-)
2. The health and happiness in our home
3. Perspective
4. Summing night swimming and comfy jammies and pizza cookies
Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti
Posts: 609 | Registered: Dec 2012 |
Breathing Heals
♀ New Member
Member # 34701 | | Posted: 1:43 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
1. My health
2. People who love me
3. Having fun with children
4. Trees
5. Laughter
Multiple NSAs, R that never got off the ground, guess I should have known. I was in R, he was busy...
Posts: 43 | Registered: Feb 2012 |
OnAnIsland
♀ Member
Member # 34319 | | Posted: 2:06 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
1) my family
2) the views out of my front and bedroom windows
3) the opportunities to explore the world made possibly by first my mother and her work, then by my own adventures, and now by the path my fWH and I have chosen to follow
4) the oceans and coasts by home and those by family
5) venice
D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou
Posts: 1482 | Registered: Dec 2011 |
KatieG
♀ Member
Member # 41222 | | Posted: 2:48 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
1. My amazing son
2. The clouds in the sky
3. My strength
4. People who believe in me
5. My cat
DD#1 - 6th Oct 13 - TT
DD#2 - 9th Nov 13 - Full disclosure
DD#3 - 12th May 14 - FOG lifted and in R
7 week A, 2 weeks together, rest phone and email - PA and EA
Posts: 524 | Registered: Nov 2013 |
HFSSC
♀ Member
Member # 33338 | | Posted: 6:01 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Oh, and this:
1. SI
2. SI
3. DS and MH
4. SI
5. SI
Me, 48
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.
Posts: 2998 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina |
Zengirl
♀ Member
Member # 42195 | | Posted: 6:34 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
1) my family
2) thunderstorms
3) homemade ice cream
4) the creek/hiking trails near our house
5) farmers markets
Me (BW): 40
Married: 15 years
3 kids
D-Day: 10/13
Posts: 165 | Registered: Jan 2014 |
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