Was the MC joint, or just IC for her. That is worthless. She could have told the therapist any lie she wanted to and you'd never know.
Stay out of MC now until you file and get an answer.
I forget who said it, buti think you should do what was suggested. Get a sitter for the kids, and walk into her office with the papers and tell her she can now legally enjoy herself without worrying about anything.
DO NOT tell her you love her and WANT to R. Tell her what you want now is your demands met or she is free to go.
The more I think about your situation the more pissed i get. How disgraceful, to have to take your wife's panties to get tested for strange semen.
She is very lucky she is not married to me.
my wife denied, saying the test is wrong because she hasnt had sex with anyone else since admitting original A. Of course.
I need to look at her electronics whenever i want, and i need the name(s) of OM(s).
Otherwise, you're right back where you started.
You aren't at that point now, however. MC at the tip of a spear (D) isn't going to work. Nor is it if she's still involved with OM and hasn't gone NC. Don't waste the time and money.
It's not easy, but this detaching is eliciting some interesting reactions by WS...
Yeah. Put a VAR in her car DG. You will know the truth then.
Stay strong! Detach detach detach. Stay dark.
[This message edited by Salt at 2:06 PM, July 11th (Friday)]
Salt...working hard at the detachment! ITS TOUGH! True test will be if i cant slip out of bed fast enough in the morning, to avoid sex invitation. although like i said before, its not really sex, its early morning (weekend-only), get it over with as fast as possible, her laying there unresponsive, physical interaction.
I have to be strong if i dont make it out of bed before potential invitation (meant to pacify me).
And my darned right hand won't be healed for another 8-12 weeks!
[This message edited by deceivedguy at 2:18 PM, July 11th (Friday)]
The MC's response was, a)science can be wrong, b) asking my wife if these discoveries make her feel ambushed, c)if we keep talking about my suspicion that she's still cheating, we can't move forward.
Fuuuuuck, it's bad enough to be gas-lighted by your own WS, but then also by the MC!?!?
You are firing her, right?
Today she ended the call letting me know she'll call when she is on her way home. Instead of saying "i love you', i said, "okay"...
long pause....she said very clearly, "I love you".
Yup, and pretty soon you'll start to experience heavy "hoovering" from her. Stay strong. It'll get REALLY interesting.
Hurry up and get that VAR from walmart or target. Hide it under the seat in the car. If you can't find the sony model there are some from $30 to $60 range in other brands. Better to get something than nothing.
Don't get angry with WW. Just stay calm and detached. She is still playing that game of 'you can't do anything since you don't know anything'.
Your greatest deficiency, as other have said, is not knowing the name of the OM or if she is still engaged in a PA with him. Makes it difficult to hang a person if you can't prove they have committed a crime.
You need some proof or she will evade justice and carry on with her 'crimes'.
You need some proof or she will evade justice and carry on with her 'crime
OK now, i'm going to go VAR shopping!
I'm going to take a different tact. Why?^^^^ Other than replacing your right hand, what drives you to want her back? Is her cooking so superlative? Her conversations so witty?
Right now, it sounds like the 180 is working. She is beginning to turn it around. However, until she is on her knees, sobbing and begging and offering everything you have already requested, why do you even want her back? The sex ain't that good.
Sending strength. I'm sorry you've had to join us.
[This message edited by 5454real at 2:49 PM, July 11th (Friday)]
And it has always ticked me off (during and after A) when she'd say "love ya" instead of i love you". semantics, i know.
It is the little things that our guts notice quickly, those little things that seem out of place to us.
You could probably get that phone number traced and find out who exactly that OM was.