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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This past weekend, we (the Greens) went on a short trip with SIL and her crew. We were discussing MIL and her obsessive behavior toward niece, SIL's daughter. My niece is in college and has had to struggle to disentangle herself from MIL's prying - she deactivated her FB, set her instagram to private . . . MIL is up in her business constantly. It's a real problem. She said, "I thought at first all the stuff she does [including buying lots and lots of stuff] was out of love but now I think it's more about her, not me."

My husband said, "I learned a long time ago that you just have to keep mom like this [holds arm out away from himself] or she'll just run all over you."

It was all I could do not to laugh. I'll take FOO Issues for 100 please Alex. Thankfully he doesn't keep me at arm's length anymore. Should all parents just start a therapy fund for their kids for later use?

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 12:24 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)]


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6805 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think about 90% should set up a therapy savings account. Maybe I should get on it. At least they have college savings accounts so they can get some psych courses under their belts, that'll help, right?


Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email

Posts: 568 | Registered: May 2014
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At least they have college savings accounts so they can get some psych courses under their belts, that'll help, right?

I took a lot of psych classes and still needed plenty of IC to sort myself out (which is still a work in progress!)


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6805 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
LA44
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There needs to be a whole pre-M course called, "The In-laws".

My MIL just told our 9 year old son that she and his grandfather broke up (20+ years ago) bc "Grandpa cheated on me. He was dating X when he was still married to me."

What did you say? I asked my DS. "I didn't know what to say, Mom."

Well I sure as hell know what I am going to say!


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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