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User Topic: Dear Wasband,
nowiknow23
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Flame  Posted: 3:47 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought you hit a low last fall when you harassed me about long-settled financial matters while my Mom was in hospice and I was on my way to sit by her deathbed. I mean, that was pretty damn low.

So now that Mom's gone and Dad is in the same palliative care boat, I was absolutely stunned to receive a blistering phone call from you, yelling at me about a debt collection phone call you received from RandomCreditor. You, of course, immediately blamed me and called demanding to know why I haven't paid them.

Really, Wasband? You couldn't check your copy of the agreement before calling me? The agreement that clearly assigned RandomCreditor to YOU? You couldn't even muster an "Oh, sorry" after I read the agreement to you?

Nope. Couldn't bother to apologize for the mistake or even acknowledge it for that matter. Just a "click" and a dead line. I guess that put me in my place. Hanging up on someone else shows just how AWESOME you are.

Too awesome for me, in fact. So why don't you hand this letter over to your wife and step back so the grown ups can speak, mkay?

Mrs. Wasband? I think the poor muffin needs a time out so he can reflect on his choices. Please emphasize to him that he should use his words next time.

Also, one last favor? Could you ask him to pretty please PAY HIS FUCKING BILLS and leave me out of it?!!! Much appreciated.


-NIK


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25766 | Registered: Aug 2011
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously, dude better never be near me and a folding chair.

It's amazing how a little responsibility sends douschebags scattering.

Well, at least he spared you any more of your time having to interact with him.

(This was as non-violent and non-profane as I could offer. The hurricane in my head sounds a lot different)

(((NIKelodeon)))

[This message edited by Jrazz at 4:13 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)]


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17860 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
dmari
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First of all, (((((NIK))))) and (((((NIK's dad)))))

after I read the agreement to you?

I can just imagine him slinking off with his tail between his legs! Good for him, that idiot!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik)))

Geez, Nik. You expect him to read and everything?

I'm sorry this is what you have to put up with.


Posts: 35924 | Registered: Mar 2011
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geez, Nik. You expect him to read and everything?
I know, I know. I really expect far too much from him.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((nik))) I am sorry he still feels he has any right to talk to you in such a manner. You, of course, don't deserve it. 'Cause you are amazing.

So sorry about your dear father, too, nik. That is tough and sad. Peace and serenity to both you and your father.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9801 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That guy gives me douchebumps.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17551 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
kg201
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(NIK)

FTG and his small balls.
.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMzXe84VoLs


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
---------------------------------
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 725 | Registered: Aug 2013
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Douschebumps!!!


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Geez, Nik. You expect him to read and everything?

It's like he has VPL of the stupids. I can see his stupid from all the way over here. Put it away, dude!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whatta jagoff.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7772 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Complete douche.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik))))
I am so sorry you have to deal with such douchebaggery bullshit now. You take care of you and your Dad. Let the Karma Bus squash his over-inflated balls.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9827 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK and Dad))) He just HAS to involve you, doesn't he? And his timing is perfectly calculated. I agree with others, but 'douche' is almost a complement to him and a slam to all preexisting douches to put him in their class.

Hey, at least it didn't cost you anything. Xpos and his L prefer to sue me for such things (covered in the D decree). They have collaborated on it twice now and both times just to have the judge tell them what the decree said, which was exactly what my L responded to their papers. But he did promise me that he would make it cost me as much as he possibly could. Nice to know that he CAN keep a promise!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2388 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Also, one last favor? Could you ask him to pretty please PAY HIS FUCKING BILLS and leave me out of it?!!! Much appreciated


(((NIK))) Sorry to hear about your father. I hope he rally's and comes back to full health.
As for douchebag, personally I would have told him to "fuck off and read the damn D agreement papers before harassing me further!"
I bow down to your saintly patience and decorum!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2335 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
TheGivingTree
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, what a jerk! Any way that you can either block his calls, or let them go to voicemail so you don't have to deal with his stupid?


Me: FBW, 48. Him: SAFWH, 57 (SFGary)
3 fantastic kids: DS 16, DS 15, DD 10
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.

Working hard at R.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use me up, cut me down, build a boat and sail aw


Posts: 53 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: San Francisco
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He usually is sent to voice mail. We are working on some last minute schedule changes with DD (due to my Dad's state), so there have been several phone calls back and forth over the last few days to arrange coverage for her doctor and therapy appointments.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the last 2 years of our marriage my XH racked up massive credit card debts without my knowledge. (I thought we were paying them down). He agreed to a 60/40 split at the D but that was the most he would take of our "marital debt". Ugh.

I struggled financially after the D and fell behind on CC payments. When the creditors started calling HIM (still don't know why, I took his name off all my cards) he tried to yell at me and I was just like, whatever dude you did this to me. I have to admit I got a sick little thrill knowing he was being harrassed by creditors. LOL


Keep calm and carry on.

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