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User Topic: Shrek met oldest child
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:24 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure how I feel, rage, outrage, disgust. I want to punch my STBX so hard in the nads and then in the throat.
Oldest DSS (but I raised him when his mother abandoned him at 11 and 7 and I'm Mom to them) went to see his father for a couple of days. Uhgggg, I cannot fathom how he could bring that trash around my innocent baby. Ok ok, he's 23, but still. He is pure, she is a nasty f...ing whore!
I'm so disgusted with his love schmoopie lalala shit.
On a brighter note, DSS says that she isn't even in the same league and how COULD he be with THAT???? He said it with utter disgust and then stated he didn't want to even think about her no more.
This THIS made me want to break NC. F...ing asswhole!!!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2237 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know it feels like a violation. Like everything else it will become normal in time. Not now though. I remember that seething rage - I still feel it sometimes but it isn't as intense as it was in the early days.

Be gentle with yourself but firm on NC. It is times like these when I found/find it the hardest. My 6 y/o asked me recently if I was still going to be her mum now that Whaura is her other mum. She was scared I might not be. Can you imagine? I wanted to weep and rip his face off all at the same time. As long as she isn't unkind to them I can suck it up.

Better the whore you know. I had hoped for better for them but it is what it is.

My girls are little but I don't expect that feeling that they are my babies will ever go away.

I'm sad for DS that in order to have a relationship with his dad he has to have Shrek around.

((SL))


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5558 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh your SS has her number, don't you worry about that. He's disgusted, and he knows dad is a fool and living in fantasy land.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3348 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SBB, yes, exactly. It's a violation of my oldest son.
You know, I served for over 20 years. There were members of my squad, platoon, what have you that were dirty. Cheated, treated spouses bad, etc. We had to hang out at work, in the field, and during team building social events. Some were cool as all get out to hang out with, but I NEVER brought them around my family. I protected my family from the dirty ones.
He was the same way once. He kept the riffraff away from me and the kids. So I guess that was what was so shocking. Then again, he is delusional and thinks she is great, wonderful, and a devoutly virtuous Catholic, so he probably convinced himself she was "clean".
sparkysable, on the one hand I'm proud my kid can distinguish garbage. On the other hand, it hurt my heart to know that he no longer has his hero to worship. I really didn't want them to know about the A. I felt like if I had told them they would lose a part of their childhood. That hero worship for a great dad. I begged that stupid fucker not to tell them about the A. But he insisted on "making it right". Shame he wasn't man enough to follow through with the making it right part and went back to her ego kibbles.
His fucked up grand jesture of making amends hurt them more than he will ever admit.
And now one has met her and he has had an abysmal fall further from grace.
Uhgggg just uhgggg.
It is what it is I guess. Hurts when you can't protect your babies anymore from truth and life.
OH, and SBB, I didn't break contact, but I really REALLY wanted to. He better not show his face for a while or he might still get kicked in the nads and throat punched.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2237 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry. I hope I don't ever have to live through that, but I won't be surprised if I do.

I'm glad the kids know about the A. They will still love their dad, and will love him for *who he really is*, not some made up fantasy of who they think he is.

They are learning to love unconditionally. Something CAT is uncapable of.

Hopefully DSS will keep his distance from shrek on his own.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He better not show his face for a while or he might still get kicked in the nads and throat punched.

OK but just a little one....

Wait. I'm joking! Stomp him until be is a stain on the carpet IN YOUR MIND. Have his picture up at target practice.

I used to scrub the bathroom like I was scrubbing his face off. I loved having a sparkling clean home during the rage cleaning phase.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5558 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know you'll always be mom to him. He sees right through Shrek.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww thank you guys so much for the support. And nekorb I too hope you don't see that day. It sucks. On a much brighter note my D is final, I have the papers to prove it, and I'm headed to Vegas on WEDNESDAY!!!!"


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2237 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
dmari
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with newlysingle ~ you will always be "mom".

OTOH ~ YOUR D IS FINAL AND YOUR GOING TO VEGAS!! That's fricken awesome!! Yahooo!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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