He was a truly crappy husband. And I think he tries to be a decent ex, although he misses the mark a lot. Not sure how to feel about that. Thankful? Not really. I guess I just hope he keeps it up - he would like us to be friends but that's not going to happen.
Too little too late, I suppose is what sums it up.
The utility company doesn't call you to sing your praises everytime you pay a bill on time, do they? No - because that's what you are supposed to be doing.
Honestly, this is probably more about your ex and he's just using you as an excuse. OW is probably pushing to formalize her relationship with your Ex. "Why don't you introduce me to the kids? Why don't I go to family/kid events with you? Blah blah blah." It's easier to say, "Oh I couldn't do that to Harriet" than it is to say "I'm not ready to take that step with you."
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
My XWH too recently thought we could be friends - thought we should "get together to catch up" I told him that we are not friends - my friends don't treat me the way he has, and left it at that. Haven't heard from him since.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling