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User Topic: First MC session
tryingsodanghard
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so proud of her. Yes, she fell apart, yes she was emotionally exhausted after an hour, but suddenly we were talking! Not shouting, not texting, really talking! We should have done this earlier, but if you'll read my story she didn't go NC until much later. Still, it's a hopeful step. We go again Monday, and we've got homework. Very hopeful, I am.


M in 2005
D's in 2008
Me BH 51
She WW 41
1st D Day 5-2-2012
2nd D Day 5-4-2013
Separated 6-2012
Divorced 9-11-2012
5 yo son, 15 yo SD
After a year of trying, she finally went NC 6-3-2013
In R and domestic partners since July of 2013.

Posts: 35 | Registered: May 2014 | From: South
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't get too overly excited. I am glad the first session went well. Not all of them will. If they all go well that's not a good sign.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1629 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
tryingsodanghard
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I know. It was just a relief to have an objective person there to mediate. And to actually talk. That was such a gift. We're decidedly not out of the woods yet, she has a long way to go, and we may never get there, but for one hour I felt like we were actually DOING something about it.


M in 2005
D's in 2008
Me BH 51
She WW 41
1st D Day 5-2-2012
2nd D Day 5-4-2013
Separated 6-2012
Divorced 9-11-2012
5 yo son, 15 yo SD
After a year of trying, she finally went NC 6-3-2013
In R and domestic partners since July of 2013.

Posts: 35 | Registered: May 2014 | From: South
tryingsodanghard
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Member # 43590
Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2nd session was all about her. I'm fine with that. She has needs and complaints in the marriage as well. Dr. Tried to impress upon her why saying that things I did or didn't do "caused" her to screw around was the wrong way to look at iit.i'm starting to suspect that my WW had the affair, at least initially, to "teach me a lesson" and to make me "wake up." Well I'm sure as hell awake.


M in 2005
D's in 2008
Me BH 51
She WW 41
1st D Day 5-2-2012
2nd D Day 5-4-2013
Separated 6-2012
Divorced 9-11-2012
5 yo son, 15 yo SD
After a year of trying, she finally went NC 6-3-2013
In R and domestic partners since July of 2013.

Posts: 35 | Registered: May 2014 | From: South
Topic Posts: 4

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