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User Topic: Promotion had!!!!!!!
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 4:31 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I interviewed for, was offered, and accepted a promotion at work.....official yesterday!

This is a significant accomplishment for me at any point in my career, but made even more so by the following fact. 45 minutes before the formal interview 4 weeks ago I experienced a strong trigger.....my gut acted up, I checked my wife's laptop and I discovered my wife lurking OM FB page. this was something she had been doing over the past 2 years.
The events of that DD smelled and tasted sickenly similar to that of my first DD 2 years ago!

I post because

---some are following my journey and were rooting and praying for me on the promotion even before my 3rd DD.....and some DURING that trial and some right after it!

---to encourage others who read about fully committed wayward spouses but don't have one of their own, wondering how they could possibly grow while their spouse checks out and the pains continue. It can be done! Yes....to have a spouse as your cheerleader would be much nicer, but this is proof you can grow and succeed without it....and can actually do it, at times, in spite of their actions. Don't let the actions of others be a reason for your inactions.

---to thank God for what He has done. No way did I get "composed, stable and focused" on my own to handle the 2 hour, highly engaging interview all on my own. I felt his presence and it felt good!

---to thank ya'll for the support....both long standing from my original brat pack members and short-term critical-support on that day 4 weeks ago! I trusted this support would be there....and was pleasantly surprised at how instant and compassionate it flowed from you guys!


Is it weird to be grateful for that day and trigger? It was a tough day.....but a fruitful one. A bountiful harvest from so many different fields!!!!!


God is with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 5:03 AM, July 12th (Saturday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3991 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Hatemyhusband
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Member # 41633
Default  Posted: 5:29 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great news. Love to read positive things happening to good people.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Dec 2013
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sweet!!! Great job! Congrats!!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6549 | Registered: Jan 2011
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Best of luck in your new responsibilities.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10374 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
hopefull77
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Member # 43221
Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

congratulations!


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 622 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Hard work rewarded. ... Good for you.

I hope you celebrate☆☆☆☆☆☆


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3846 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Sunnydaysahead
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Member # 43756
Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!

Posts: 63 | Registered: Jun 2014
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So awesome Blake! I'm excited for this accomplishment for you!

Posts: 1108 | Registered: Jan 2013
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys! I knew you would be excited and supportive!!!!

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3991 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
AML04
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Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fantastic news!!! I'm so happy for you!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
rachelc
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Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yay! Had a feeling all along... good job!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5276 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
LosferWords
♂ Guide
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! Well earned, Blake. Really happy to hear the good news from you!

Posts: 7540 | Registered: Dec 2010
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations Blake!!!


And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1323 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

😊😊😊😊😊😊

Thanks!


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3991 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Feelthrownaway
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Member # 33772
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats !!!!


BW- 48
FWH-49
D-day- aug 16,2011
Married 23 years- together 25

What doesn't kill me, scars me.


Posts: 1086 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Down South
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was wondering what the news on the promotion was. Congratulations! That's wonderful news!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4935 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
iwillNOT
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Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done!


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 512 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17846 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Arnold01
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Enjoy the new role and have fun with whatever new challenges and career learning opportunities it brings you! I'm really happy for you.


D-Day: June 2013 discovered two-month EA/PA
NC established: August 2013
Reconciling

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013
HUM1021
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Member # 6222
Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!


Me: BS 34
Her: WS 33
M 5 years
dday with 1st OM 4/30/04 EA/PA
dday with 2nd OM 12/11/04 EA/PA
on the reconciliation rollercoaster

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