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User Topic: He has plans...
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's all he said.

DS10 asked my husband if we were doing anything today, all he said was "I have plans, you three can do something."

He never said what he was doing, where he was going, or who he was going to be with. He just walks out and says nothing.

The weekend the kids were at my mother's he left Sunday morning. Again he never said where he was going, what he was doing, or who he was going to be with. All he mumbled was "I'll be back in a few." Three hours later he comes back.

I guess there's no real point to this thread. I just needed to get it off my chest. Sorry


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Sunnydaysahead
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Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry you are having a rough day. You and your kids should not be treated this way, your WH is a selfish asshole!

I read back through your latest posts, it sounds like you are working on an exit plan. I admire you for taking the steps to protect yourself and the kids. Stay strong and enjoy the time he is out of the house.

((SD))


Posts: 64 | Registered: Jun 2014
Mochagurl
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((SD)) so sorry for your pain. BTDT. One thing an early IC told me, do not count on him for anything. At one point I was counting on my WH to watch our baby while I went to school at night. Sometimes he was there sometimes not. So I just started planning on babysitters and going to movies or stuff.
He didn't like me not hanging around waiting for him. But I felt better.


Me: BS-55
Him: WS-55
Married: 35 years
DD 36, DD 26, DS 22, DD 19
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.

Posts: 231 | Registered: May 2007 | From: Ohio
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Sunny and Mocha.

Yes, I'm working on an exit plan. Plus I've been interviewing. So I'm hoping something comes up soon. I can't stand to be around him. Whenever he's home I'm in bed

Part of me wants to ask what he's doing and who has with, but I don't want to give him the satisfaction that what he does bothers me. That might sound juvenile...I don't know.

I'm going to takes the kids out and have fun.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
heme
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((simply)) Sorry you are having to deal with this crap.


BS: Me (30)
WS: Husband (31)
Married 8 years, together 9
D-Day: Sept 10, 2013
D-Day2: May 31, 2014
Children: 5, ages 7, 5, 3, 1 and due in September

Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.


Posts: 205 | Registered: Sep 2013
jadedangel
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So you have plans right?

When the kids are there, take them out with you. Find free or low cost activities to do with them.
In our area, we have a drive through safari, Space and Rocket Center, along with parks, shopping or whatever.

The point is, so what if he has plans. He is losing out with the kids. You on the other hand will not.

It hurts. I know it does but will get easier one day at a time, one foot before the other.

Remember, he is nothing.

Hugs to you and the kids!


DDay: I can't remember but there were more than one

Divorced 06/2007

EXWH passed away 8/31/2011


Posts: 428 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: AL
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks heme and jaded.

We just came home. I took them to the park and we had a nice picnic. We brought some toys and played. Once it got too hot we left. I didn't want to go home so we walked around the mall and went into all the stores the kids like to go into but can't when he's around. So we were out all afternoon.

He's still not home.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
hihn
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you simplydevastated! Glad you had a good experience with the kids.


Me BS 58yo
Him WS 55yo, porno & sex addict
DD#1 1/28/14 co-worker#1 1991
DD#2 2/8/14 co-worker#2 9/13 - 4/14,he moved in with OW 3/9/14, moved out from OW 4/8/14
DD#3 4/10/14 22+ anonymous sex OW
Full disclosure 7/30/14 30+ sex parteners
TT is

Posts: 130 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: colorado
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, we had a good day.

He came home a little after 3. Then after dinner he decided to take us out for ice cream.

That's his pattern. He tries to buy affection. He'll ignore us or fight with the kids then buy them something. He came home with a movie for them. When they asked if they could watch it he said no and proceeded to tell them that they've been home watching TV all day. I told them to put it on.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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