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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A little over a week ago I we had the blow up and I filled out the paperwork to file for divorce. On the 10th, she tries to start an argument which I ignored until she said "its been 7 years and I'm sick of the fact that you brought it up last weekend". Three parts of irony with this. First, it was 4 years to the day (Jul 10 2010). Second, I hadn't brought it up in a few years, other than to mention she wasn't living up to promises of R. Third, she's some kind of special. I already feel sorry for the next poor bastard.

36 BH
Sons 16 and 8 Daughters 11, 7, 5.
Ex and STBX both cheated, thinking of getting a dog as a companion after D. At least they're loyal.

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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Sounds like this is a move that is long overdue. Hoping for peace for you. Going by the way she seems to rationalize things, it sounds like you need the space. Sending strength.

"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Without knowing what she is not doing, which is obvious to you, you need to file. She has blame shifted to you and doesn't even want to remember anything.
Give her some consequences. It might not her memory of what she committed to when you agreed to give her another chamce

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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry Hurting.

You know you've done the right thing. Four years is a long time to wait for true reconciliation. I know that it is hard, but sometimes letting go is the only path to peace.

"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08

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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn man you've done what most wouldn't and 4 years is a long time. You can definitely walk away with your held high because you gave your marriage a chance. Now it's in to bigger and better things brother. Best of luck to you.

Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 627 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I have a WW who has refused to own up to her VLTA. A divorce would cause our kids a lot of pain, but she is solely responsible for the actions that destroyed this marriage. I intend to visit a divorce lawyer, soon.

I believe; help my unbelief!

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