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ShiningAutumn8
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:24 PM, July 15th (Tuesday)]


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DrJekyll
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

just posted on that in porn addiction. maybe we discuss there? to keep this thread on track.


Moving from Jekyll the destroyer to Jekyll the rebuilder.

"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

no stop sign = BS always welcome
I do not PM with women


Posts: 608 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

shining.... I cannot say. I did a couple times, I think both men and women do, but not on a regular basis.


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

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SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

agreed drjeckyll

[This message edited by SorryInSac at 2:10 PM, July 15th (Tuesday)]


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is not normal is for him to do that exclusively and stop sex with his wife.


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

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DrJekyll
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

tired girl is correct, Sac it is not that you no longer had sexual desire. just none with your BS
(Betrayed Spouse) It appears as though you were lashing out and punishing her. Why?


Moving from Jekyll the destroyer to Jekyll the rebuilder.

"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

no stop sign = BS always welcome
I do not PM with women


Posts: 608 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was not meaning to punish her. It was a timing thing. When the mood hit (her), I was always too sore and tired. when I lay on the bed, I am pretty much done. I should have talked to her about this, I thought she knew. I have trouble staying awake past 9 anymore. There was no punishment intended.


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
DrJekyll
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

so then your default coping mechanism, is to not discuss but take care of yourself.


Moving from Jekyll the destroyer to Jekyll the rebuilder.

"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

no stop sign = BS always welcome
I do not PM with women


Posts: 608 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It seems that way


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having trouble buying all of that. As apparently you weren't too tired for all of the extra curricular activities you engaged in. So at what point did you start putting all your energy there instead of your M? And why?


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

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DrJekyll
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are 3 days out from DDay? Have you told her the truth yet? the whole truth? The stuff she didn't have to find? The whole story?


Moving from Jekyll the destroyer to Jekyll the rebuilder.

"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"

ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)

no stop sign = BS always welcome
I do not PM with women


Posts: 608 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would have to say a quick and easy fix. No one around, just do it. No real energy needed.


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I have. She does not believe me, but I brought that. I try to remember everything. I just don't. I think I have. I want to come clean from this, if it is at all possible.


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be back in a few, my head is spinning, need to lay down for a bit.


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am back


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

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SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The facts are out there now. I posted my privates on the web, signed up on adult sites, responded to ads on craigslist, and masturbated instead of making love to my wife. How do I fix this?


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Will I ever be able to regain her trust?


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
SorryInSac
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am here on this site because my marriage is worth saving. I am afraid, and ashamed. I feel sorry for her having to find this out, as it never should have happened. I need help to work through this.


Me - 47-PoS
BW Gabybaby. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

Posts: 61 | Registered: Jul 2014
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Will I ever be able to regain her trust?
Honestly, at this point, I doubt it. You've lied repeatedly, minimized, and deflected for so long coupled with the fact that this isn't your BS's first rodeo with infidelity - you have your work cut out for you, for sure. That doesn't mean all hope is lost, though. Don't give up, don't stop fighting. Regardless of what happens, you still need to work on you.


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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SIS...

I can appreciate you reaching out for support, it's just that I get the feeling that your words are empty. I don't feel any emotion behind them. I realize that it's not easy to convey over the internet and in written format, however usually there is some emotion that is expressed.

Maybe you're in shock or denial...I don't know, all I know is if I were your wife and reading your posts it would not bring me much hope.

I sincerely want to see you both succeed, but I feel you really need to reach down deep and expose all the ugly things that were stored up inside you. It's truly the only way to inner peace, forgiveness and true, core life changes.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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