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User Topic: he abused my kids....wow...
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teeghan, just wanted to let you know that you and your sweet babies are in my prayers. I just can't imagine the strength it must be taking for you to let the police do their job. Good God woman... I hope your x and his mom suffer long and hard in prison for what hell they've put your sweet innocent children through.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 868 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
KeepCalm_CarryOn
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post destroys my soul. I am so sorry for what your littles have been through.

FTG and nail his ass to a post.


You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.

Me- BW, 28
Him- fWh, 34
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August


Posts: 2030 | Registered: Sep 2011
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just when you think you heard it all. I can't even imagine what you're feeling know what they did.

I hope that those disgusting animals are never allowed anywhere remotely near your precious babies.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Mar 2012
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strength to you. This is just awful.

I am so sorry.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 880 | Registered: Aug 2011
Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teeghan, you have been through so much and you are pulling yourself and your babies UP. Stick with it and make sure these people are prosecuted and hopefully your babies won't have to spend another minute ALONE with these cruel people!

Hang in there, you CAN do it for the babies!


"Because I deserve better"

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, Teeghan. I'm so sorry your babies suffered by his hands.

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
confused615
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im so sorry.

I am praying this means your POS ex will *never* have unsupervised visits with your babies again.

As for "Grandma." I'd like a few minutes alone with her and a hickory stick. How dare she. How fucking dare she. A Grandma's job is simple..love the kids. That's it. that's all they have to do..just love them..LOVE them. I have a 14 month old granddaughter. I don't even tell her "no." That's her parent's job..not mine. I hope that bitch is never allowed around them again.

Hugs to you and your babies.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7688 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((teeghan and babies))

WTF???? Your poor babies! They are so lucky to have you as their Mom! What a great role model you are, not only for them but for all abused parents and children. I am in awe of you!

Now, as for "gramma" can I do unto her as she has done unto them??? She deserves to be in a cell with Big Bertha, and him with Bubba!!! (no offense to people with those names). I am a gramma. My DGD is 13 and knows how to play me like a fiddle! And THAT is what grandparents are for! Stupid bitch

Keep going, teeghan. You've got this!

Sending strength and prayers.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What asshole gave him unsupervised visits? Whoever it is, I'd make damn sure they see the results of their ruling.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very, very sorry - I want to punch your ex and his mother in their faces. RIGHT IN THEIR FACES. So I can't even begin to imagine how you feel.

I hope they both go to jail. And I hope they both get nasty infected cuts and aren't allowed to have treatment. Assholes.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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1Faith
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Sad  Posted: 4:27 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are with you. We are sending hugs and prayers.

Keep fighting for you and your children.

I am so sorry that you find yourself in this situation.

Keep us posted on your situation. We are here and we care.

(((hugs)))


"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

Posts: 1201 | Registered: Apr 2013
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any updates, teeghan?

(((Hugs)))


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
teeghan
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all. The detective comes.back out.to.our home.tomorrow to interview my kids in depth about all that happened. My son still has bad marks 18 days later.....just makes.me.sick.still

I will update tomorrow once we have our visit with police detective. This.is the special victims unit detective.


Posts: 111 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Georgia
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((teeghan & children)))

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hopefulmom44
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Teeghan-

God bless you and your children. Be strong! You will get thru this nightmare soon. I'm praying for you and kids.


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope they take away his parental rights and lock them both up.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
teeghan
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not much.to.report.yet. detective did not make it today but says he will tomorrow. He knows i want no visits and a tpo on behf of my kids and i want them both prosecuted for their.parts in the abuse. I.widh i could post pictures here i.would share a leg pic of my poor son 19 days later. Just makes me.so.sad......

Posts: 111 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Georgia
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there girl. You are strong smart and able to stand up for your babies. That asshole will get his eventually.

Be patient love those kids and put them first.
I want to cause him the same physical and mental pain and damage he has caused your kids. Let's hope he gets a big sick man for his cell mate.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8714 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so horrible, I am so sorry you and your kids are experiencing this. I am so sick to my stomach for you.

I hope he never sees your children again. What a monster.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


Posts: 2312 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
teeghan
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I have an update.

The detective never came to the house. Instead he called me and said that he has worked this case "hard" and that he interviewed their dad, and he felt after that conversation that places came from them playing in the river which my daughter got a gash on the bottom of her foot. I was floored. He said that he spoke to everyone and said there was not enough there for to get a warrant.

ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME? I was floored. I said so you spoke to the kids so they can tell you how they feel or how they were treated.

He did not feel he could do anything on my ex or his mom. I am in freaking shock. I literally just said have a great day and hung up. So he called me back and asked that I should not get upset. I again, yelled at him and said not be upset..my kids were abused and badly and you dont wont me upset??? Go eff yourself and I hung up again. Maybe I shouldnt have taken this out on him but I do not get it.

I sent my kids back for this weekend visit as If I didnt I would be in contempt. My kids and I discussed a safe word and if they say that word I know to send out a welfare check. I also called Dfacs and trying to start a case and trying to find an attorney that I can afford to go have a modification done to revoke his visits based off injuries, child neglect, child abuse, child endangerment, and not paying support.

I have cried so much the last two days. I hate our system. People always wonder WHY women go back to their abusers - this is why. Our system does not care. He has broken my tpo a million times and they have YET to hold anything to that damn man. I DONT GET IT! I know he is slick. He is a NPD and a sociopath... even the police told me that before and begged me to stay away. You couldnt pay me enough to go back. I fought way to hard after years of abuse. But I am freaking out now about my kids. Our system sure does fail for the victims....I have experienced this over and over first hand.

[This message edited by teeghan at 8:40 AM, July 26th (Saturday)]


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