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User Topic: Hey, This Trigger Didn't Bother Me
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Had to drive to a part of the city I don't normally drive to. It happens to be the part of the city where the favored hotel for their hook ups is located. I didn't even think of that.

The drive down, totally didn't realize I was in that part of the city, drove right by the hotel, didn't even notice it. YAY!

Four years out and I can assure you that the triggers do lessen. A lot. There is hope, newbies to reconciliation. It will get better.

However, on the ride home, I drove by the hotel and I just happened to glance over at that particular time and read the sign and went "oh!". Just was driving and processing, doing self talk. Hey, you didn't even realize where you were, how cool is that. This trigger didn't even bother me, it didn't trigger me. Blah, blah, blah.

Then I realized I had driven two miles past my exit. I still feel it was a "win"!

I have to drive by it two times again tomorrow. I have no qualms whatsoever.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9836 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
devasted30
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Default  Posted: 5:15 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoot whoot!!!! Good for you.


And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1335 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yahoo! Every little victory is worth celebrating!

Posts: 1114 | Registered: Jan 2013
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 633 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
UndecidedinMA
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Member # 33732
Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NICE!!!
I still trigger when I hit "her" area. Can't wait til the day I realize I am there after the fact


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
Allornothing
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This makes me so happy!


Me- BS 43
Him- FWH 43
Married 19 years, Together 26
Kids- 23,21,15,14
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant

Posts: 192 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
gabear
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

gives me hope :)


Still in love just broken

Posts: 24 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Georgia
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