Love this post!
I decided that if I'm unsure about an outfit/item of clothing then I'll be very specific about what I ask. In the past, I would have said 'does this look ok?' Which would have inevitably lead to the compliment I was searching for. My more recent questions have been 'does this top go with these trousers?' Or (while wearing two different shoes) 'which shoes look better with this outfit?' I'm proud of that boundary I've created to stop me going on the hunt for ego kibbles.
If I think I look nice then that's all that matters! Me - 27
Him - 27
My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.