I feel isolated. ...I feel like I dont even have any friends to go to for support....my "best" friend is in a fairly new relationship and suddenly has a very busy social calender. ..one that has no space for me and DD. What sucks the most is her ex did the same job as my BH....she knows better than anyone else what its like and how I feel, but she is not there. ..every time I invite her to do something she says no cuz she already has plans.
So I guess it continues. ...I dont feel like there is anything I can even do to fix it and feel better.
Sorry, I realize this is a very whiny and dramatic post....but I had to vent.
Maybe you could meet him at his job some of the other days for lunch or coffee breaks or something?
I, too, lost my BFF (he was AP's H). I also gave up my main hobby, which was my choice, but I have a lot of free time now. I spend it cleaning and playing video games. I don't know if you work or not, but that might be something to consider. If you need to be home for DD there are a variety of things you could do from home for extra cash and to keep busy.
Right now my priority is my family and BW. If she decides she wants to spend time with me I want to be available for that. It's not easy to make friends when you're working from home though, which is my problem. I doubt I'll find a new bro on my own, but perhaps we'll make friends with another couple someday.
Sometimes DS plays outside with the neighbor kids and I'll sit outside with the adults while the kids play. So, for now, that's my socializing.
Anyway, I know how you feel. "You've been heard"
I wish we could visit BH at work....but he is a corrections officer in a prison, so visiting or even talking to him while hes at work is impossible.
I don't know where you are in Mass, but here's an example:
I'm trying to get BW to take swing dance classes with me since they're offered sunday nights. But obviously that depends on her. She actually said she'd take belly dancing classes, but it would have to be during the day. If your work is flexible maybe you could take a class one day a week, or one night a week. Bet your BH would enjoy the fruits of that labor.
You'd probably be tired that evening and not even mind being on your kindle.
Now get up and live, damn you!
I suggest talking to him. Speaking from personal experience, bottling up this stuff leads to resentment and "permission" to do something you might regret.
"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"
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