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User Topic: Depressed and don't know why!
Angeles85
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First I thought it was a bad day, then maybe because my period was coming, nope. It's been a week now and I just feel so sad, I cry everyday, I feel so lonely. I push myself to go out, to exercise, visit friends, family that used to help but not this time. I really don't know what's going on with me. I just feel like nobody will ever love me again maybe because my Bday is coming in 2 weeks, I will be 29...with no kids and I'm afraid I will never have a family. 7 months after DDay...is this normal? I mean I thought I was doing good!

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Los Angeles
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have some big fears that are in your mind.

I just feel like nobody will ever love me again

I will be 29...with no kids and I'm afraid I will never have a family

The first is definitely driven by your past relationship and your second fear is very common for people that want to have a family. You think that you are depressed so why not take the next step to visit your doctor or a counselor so that they can diagnose it and get you some assistance. You need to take care of you.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holidays including birthdays are hard. For me it was my second birthday from the divorce- I think I was still in shock on the first.

Plan something whether that is a session of movies in your pjs or a dinner with friends or a dinner with your closest friend. You will be okay and one day the pain will be less.

As far as children - most of my friends who dated a lot didn't get married until their mid 30's and had children (closer together) but they did. I don't know if you will or won't but being 29 won't be a factor - people are getting married later on average and starting a family even later due to profession or simply meeting their spouse.

Focus on what you would enjoy on your birthday and let the other things go for now. Focus on how far you come and know this will pass.


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Angeles85
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank u guys, I guess my depression has to do with my BDay coming and his Bday that was yesterday. I will find a counselor, I was trying to save some money because I couldn't afford it before.
I mean I know 29 is not that bad but I don't know when I will be ready to date again and then find the right man, fall in love...all this takes years! I hope this coming week is better. Thanks again for the support

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Los Angeles
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know when I will be ready to date again and then find the right man, fall in love...all this takes years!

If you seek out a counselor then add this to your goals. I understand the desire to save money but investing in yourself so that you don't live it drudgery isn't a bad option.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52129 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I started feeling depressed about turning 30, being single, never getting married, and not having kids. So I booked a flight, and I will be spending my 30th birthday in Paris! Take control of your life and do something for you. I never thought I'd be spending my 30th alone, but I couldn't be more excited now.


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Angeles85
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks lonelygirl, my bday will be a Tuesday so I will take the day off at work and I'm thinking about going to hike the half dome in Yosemite park by myself...hopefully I can get the tickets!
Have fun in Paris!! :)

Posts: 128 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Los Angeles
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yosemite would be great!

I'm at six months and was also doing really well, but this has been a hard week--if both birthdays were thrown in, forget it. I think it's part of the cycle of healing to dip through the stages again.

I'm. 30 and want kids too. I have so many friends who met their partners at an older age than I am now. Get excited about the life you have now and don't worry so much about conforming to some arbitrary timeline. There is truly no rush and believe it or not, you aren't even that old! So much life is ahead--don't feel as if it's somehow too late for you.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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