[This message edited by mamajen00 at 6:22 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]
That said, if the A is a deal breaker, then you have the right to lt the facts be known. Certainly our WS ALWAYS try to re-write marital history.
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I emailed the OW's parents. They wrote back and said it takes 2 to tango, not to blame their daughter, and that my XWH was just as much to blame as the OW, so pretty much, OW's parents did not care. I was glad I told them though, as I think they were going to try to pull off the same old "we just started dating" bit, and I was not about to let them get away with that.
I also emailed the chief of police at XWH and OW's department that they work.
It might not have made much of a difference, but I wanted the truth out there, and I know that XWH was starting with his "the marriage was really bad for a long time" bullshit, even though we had just adopted a newborn baby.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.