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User Topic: Do you think the OW or OM is truly sorry?
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Wh is/was a OM. He was not sorry for having sex with another mans wife. My wh said he could careless about mow husband and mow didn't care about me. That I was just in her way and taking time with him from her. I think my wh feels sorry for himself. That people know hes the type of guy to not only cheat on his wife but also capable of screwing another mans wife. Selfish and unreal. 4 yrs later and it all still boggles my mind.

[This message edited by sunflowergirl30 at 9:42 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]

Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.
Wh-lying, cheater now 37
Me- crazy bs now 38
2 teens and a dog
Mow- married old whore now 50

1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010

Posts: 1107 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW in my situation is sorry, sorry she got caught! She is selfish and self-centered, she cares only about herself and the effect the exposure of the affair had on her. She plays the poor poor me, I am so broken card to her husband.

I initially confronted her two years ago and she lied about their interaction. Stupid me, I appealed to her about my kids etc...she admitted to pursuing my H. She promised to stay away. They did stay apart for 10 months and there were a few more hookups over the last 15 months. Theirs was a "f-buddy" non emotional LTA. No dinners, hearts or flowers, just quickie sex.

Now that the A is in the open, she is gaslighting and minimizing the contact she and my WH had to her husband. He calls me to compare stories, hers are far more pg than WH's version. They are all idiots!!

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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sunflowergirl raises a great point. How sorry is your own WS for the pain they caused the other BS?

In our case, WH was led to believe that OBH was OK with an open marriage. (OW herself puts this out there, so I believe it.) When I recently learned that OBH may not have been as informed as we thought, I asked my WH how he feels about being an OM, and wrecking someone else's marriage. He says he feels bad because OBH sounds like a decent, honorable guy, but there was certainly no sackcloth and ashes going on there.

Hell, many of the WSs we read about here aren't even sorry for what they did to their OWN marriage! These are just some sick, sad, broken people.

Me & WH: 48, married 22 years, 4 kids
DDay: 3/5/14, 7 yr LTA plus multiple ONS
Status: Living in limbo

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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know she is doing the 12 steps and I wonder if I will get an amends letter. My guess is probably not.

same here - even got a text asking if she could write the letter to me - I told her to go for it. That was six years ago - no letter.

[This message edited by Lalagirl at 11:00 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]

Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,2yo GD & 3 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mOM and my WW worked together. He wanted to fuck her. End of story. There was no sorry involved, other than he is a sorry excuse for a human being.

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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW just called me crazy and quickly hung up phone. Then she called W.H. to tell him that I had better not contact her again or else.

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