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stupidstupidme
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Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah... milk and cereal - hell no. No matter what type milk or what type of cereal it is.

I think counting and measuring are a good way to learn. It takes practice and experimentation. I'm on month seven and I know exactly what I need, and how much. I SEE it in how my body responds.

Hiring a personal trainer isn't a bad idea either. I didn't, but they are a good avenue of learning exactly how to get it right, because it is CONFUSING and there is a lot of bad bad bad info. out there.


Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another vote for low-carb. I never count calories, I count carbs :) And I never worry about fat - it's really not the enemy; sugar/starch/carbs are, IMO.

Yeah... milk and cereal - hell no. No matter what type milk or what type of cereal it is.

I eat milk and cereal most every day. Mmmm! Some of it is even the kids' kind...sweetened kinds.

Bobbi_sue, I think it really depends on the individual. For example, my SIL can count calories all day long and not lose weight, but if she eats low-carb, she loses weight. I really believe we're all built differently. Congrats on maintaining that 80-lb loss, that's amazing!

Thanks, Jana. But I do feel my post of what REALLY does work for me gets lost in the popular belief of the day that sugar/starch/carbs are the enemy and I must be some exception to the rule. Iím not. I donít give up any particular food but I did have to give up eating large portions of food as a coping device in life. Part of this meant in order to get honest with myself, I had to very carefully measure and figure out what is in everything I eat so that calorie count is quite accurate and I'm not fooling myself into believing the amount is lower. I do believe low carb diets usually do work if you stick with them, but they are designed so that you will naturally restrict your calories without realizing you are doing so. If it works for you, that is fine and I would never suggest anything different, but I guess I do kind of take statements like:

Yeah... milk and cereal - hell no. No matter what type milk or what type of cereal it is.
as general advice for everyone, not just the one who says this works for her. Maybe I take it all wrong, but I still want to emphasize that not everyone needs a low carb plan to be successful.

[This message edited by Bobbi_sue at 2:51 PM, July 24th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The problem at home is the chicken/turkey... that would require cooking two meals because the boys (FWSO and kid) wouldn't eat a turkey burger to save their lives. FWSO won't touch chicken of any kind.

I don't see an issue with this. You cook turkey and chicken. FWSO and kids have two options: eat it or take care of themselves for dinner.

You're going healthy. If you manage the pantry and plan the meals, then that's exactly what you do. If they want junk they can purchase and prepare on their own.

PS: What about fish like Salmon, Tilapia, Trout, etc?

ETA: another breakfast alternative is Greek Yogurt. Go for plain, full fat (if you can find it), and add fruit or a little touch of honey to sweeten if you don't like the tartness. It packs a whopping of protein for your breakfast, the fat is very filling (you can still do it with 200-250 cals and feel satisfied with full fat), and as long as you avoid the "fruit added" kind then it's super low carb (those with fruit added are loaded with added sugar as is most low fat or non-fat greek yogurt).

[This message edited by hurtbs at 5:17 PM, July 24th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another tip: I was on a medically supervised diet for a while...I lost over 50 lbs in 3 months. I was told to drink half my weight in ounces of water daily. So a 200 lb person should drink 100 oz of water daily. I truly believe this was really important and made a huge difference.


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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw this article today, and I LOVE it. I wanted to share it for everyone:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/courtney-green/strength-training_b_4003117.html


I especially love the benefit: hormonal regulation. (in addition to that bangin body)


Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another tip: I was on a medically supervised diet for a while...I lost over 50 lbs in 3 months. I was told to drink half my weight in ounces of water daily. So a 200 lb person should drink 100 oz of water daily. I truly believe this was really important and made a huge difference.

OMG get me a catheter ...


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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, July 28th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The problem at home is the chicken/turkey... that would require cooking two meals because the boys (FWSO and kid) wouldn't eat a turkey burger to save their lives. FWSO won't touch chicken of any kind.

Teach.them.to.cook


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