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User Topic: Let the trickle truth begin!
betrayednewmommy
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I knew it was only a matter of time. WH has finally admitted to not one, but two EAs in the past six months with women he met on Dice with Friends. He says he talked to numerous others, but only two did he exchange private information and truly cross the line with. He also has been hiding his drinking, use of chewing tobacco, and spending of money. All of this came out in just the first day him starting to tell the truth. I know more is coming.

He swears the two women live far away and never turned into a PA, even though he had discussed meeting up with one of them if he wasn't married. Isn't it comforting to know that the only thing keeping him from bringing another woman into my house for sex AGAIN is geography (and that's if I choose to believe this version of the story)?

He has started IC and will be going to AA nightly for a while. I have another meeting with my attorney tomorrow to file the initial petition outlining the conditions of supervised visitation with DD for now. I got my STD results back today - all negative. Yay!! And DD's school will be able to help me somewhat with tuition for the upcoming year. So hopefully, she won't have to leave the school she loves.

Steps in the right direction!


BW-35(me)
STBXWH-36(him) - "Duck Yard"
M 8yrs - DSS (8), DD (5)
D-Day #1 01/18/10 EA/PA 3mos
D-Day #2 07/08/14 2 new EAs and drunken bender that nearly killed him in front of DSS
I AM DONE!! Filing for divorce 07/2014

Posts: 138 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Louisiana
determinata
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry you are back here again. I too am a trickle truth veteran with 6 years of unproud service in a relationship full of lies. You are doing a good job of protecting your daughters. And congratulations on a negative STD panel. Please take care of yourself too and keep posting.

[This message edited by determinata at 7:27 PM, July 21st (Monday)]


M 2007. DDay 2008
~10+ CL Prostitutes in 8 months
Divorcing SAWH "ActionsOverWords"
Me: Early 30s BW (also an adult OC) w Baby DS

6 years of TT, hidden STD & false R
Separated 5 mos+; he will not commit
Someday I will be okay


Posts: 288 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York City
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just for clarification, are you two still married? I read your profile and it sounds like he is out of the house... I just don't know much about visitation and attorneys and how you could set that up while still being together.

I'm glad that he is getting into multiple kinds of therapy, and I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this for so very long. Steps in the right direction have got to feel good at this point.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17822 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
betrayednewmommy
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Member # 27444
Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, we are still married. The petition being filed is based on the advice of my attorney. I am going this route instead of emergency sole custody based WH irresponsible and dangerous actions while drinking. My attorney says if I can get WH to sign this, it will protect DD and cost me far less to do so. Hopefully, WH will sign it. It's just temporary while something more permanent can be worked out.


BW-35(me)
STBXWH-36(him) - "Duck Yard"
M 8yrs - DSS (8), DD (5)
D-Day #1 01/18/10 EA/PA 3mos
D-Day #2 07/08/14 2 new EAs and drunken bender that nearly killed him in front of DSS
I AM DONE!! Filing for divorce 07/2014

Posts: 138 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Louisiana
norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. Are you going to Al-Anon?

((((betrayednewmommy)))


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
betrayednewmommy
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Member # 27444
Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not going to Al-Anon right now, but it has been recommended by several people. Right now, I'm struggling to maintain my full time job and still keep things as normal as possible for DD who is stuck to me like glue every second we have together. I think it would benefit me, but right now I think I other things are taking priority.


BW-35(me)
STBXWH-36(him) - "Duck Yard"
M 8yrs - DSS (8), DD (5)
D-Day #1 01/18/10 EA/PA 3mos
D-Day #2 07/08/14 2 new EAs and drunken bender that nearly killed him in front of DSS
I AM DONE!! Filing for divorce 07/2014

Posts: 138 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Louisiana
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