Question for the group. How many of you think your WS would have eventually stopped cheating if they had not been caught? I vote a big no.
My wayward, when asked on dday if he would have stopped if NOT CAUGHT said "no". When asked how long he planned on conducting the affair he said: "for as long as she was interested"
He now denies ever saying those words, but that type of dday amnesia is typical of waywards, I have been told by my IC.
I know he said those words because they were painfully seared into my memory.
I guess the bigger picture is, will a cheater always have the urge to cheat? Does getting caught usually (or ever) cure them?
I wish I had the answer to that.
Based on what I read, some are cured after getting caught, others go underground, and some just lay low until the spouse trusts again, and the next opportunity to make of fool of their spouse arises again.
How do we know which one our spouses are?
I wish I Knew the answer to that.