I awoke at around 4am this morning straight from a terrible dream. It was my first dream ever with the OM in it. I immediately woke my BS and told him every detail about it. At least it was only 5 minutes before he had to get up to take our DD to the airport for an early flight, not an hour before. When I woke, it was so real that I felt that same fear and shame of worrying about my BS's reaction. It was hard knowing it was beyond my control and that it would hurt him. He thanked me for telling him right away, but there were residual effects for the rest of the day.
In the dream my BS and I were at a open air outside cafe sitting with friends. At the time when the dream started, I saw sitting on the OM's lap right next to my BS. I immediately realized I was sitting on the OM, screamed and jumped up. My BS looked over and saw OM and was like "WTF are you doing here??!" to the OM, the OM tried to mutter some lame excuse that he was right there all along and my BH turned around and punched the living shite out of him. Everyone at our table erupted in applause, then my dream moved to a completely different scene with a random dream about my mom.
On top of all of this disgusting dream, I've had some health issues lately and today was once of those rare days where I only have the energy to barely sit up and the only thing to remedy it is sleeping most of the day (which doesn't happen but maybe once or twice a year) to regain my energy back. Unfortunately, my BS thought that was due to my dream, but it wasn't. This made him angry with me the entire day and there was little I could physically do to comfort him. It's rare that I feel helpless in these situations, but today was one of them. We ended up getting out of the house for dinner and discussing the day a bit more, but it still is awful that I've hurt him yet again.
So here I am scratching my head as to why would the OM show up in my dream? Why the HECK was I sitting on his lap when the dream first began? It made me feel better that my initial response was to jump up and scream as soon as I realized it, but why was he there?!
The only "good" part of the dream was watching my brave BS punch the crap out of him.
Has anyone else experienced dreams like this as a WW or with their WW? How did you approach it? Did they come back again? What helped if your WW had this happen? How can I comfort him? He leaves tomorrow morning for a 3 day trip and this just awful timing.WW(me) 33
BS(him/Jt8d) 35 | Teaches me real, true unbroken love every day.
"Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully." J. Brot