My suggestion is to try your best to forget about her - she's one of probably hundreds if not thousands of women in your geographical area that would have filled the same role under different circumstances. Figure out what's wrong with your husband and whether he's worthy of a second chance, and that will eventually resolve all of your problems. Best of luck.
only time in four months that my husband agreed to watch the kids, he took them on a date with her! He left our 8 yo daughter alone in the car in a dark alley one time while he ran up to his AP’s apartment “for a few minutes.” He brought her to our house for dinner as his “friend.”
Read this several times. Do you see who your real problem is? She could have been anyone. He needs to pull his head out of his ass and decide if he wants to be a married father or a single guy.
BTW, I'm sure she's a real lowlife sleaze. Didn't mean to imply otherwise. But the world's full of sleazes, nothing new about that. They are dime a dozen and about as unique as grains of sand. But you have one husband. That's where your focus should be.
Best of luck, we're pulling for you!
[This message edited by Sal1995 at 8:10 PM, July 24th (Thursday)]
It must really suck to live everyday with such low self-esteem and self-confidence that you need to go against decent human moral values to get attention from married men.
Even the women that come across as thinking they are all "that" and portray themselves as such...are hiding the fact that they feel worthless.
No one who feels good about themselves, has high integrity, and moral values commits to this behavior.
In the end...they are cheap, easy, pathetic creatures. It must suck to feel like that everyday.
No matter what...she can't erase the ugly stain from her soul, or feel confident, or hold her head up with pride. She just has to keep living like a bottom feeder. Never good enough to get married, barely good enough to be passed around.
As for the OW, who cares? She is a non factor now. An empty shell whom everyone knows about now. WH told her MY personal business and she in turn told others. But see, I wasn't even mad at her. That's what she had to do to try and make her feel better. My problem lies with him. It pains me to know that the H I chose to live the rest of my life with and have three beautiful children by would also throw me under the bus. I didn't have much self esteem to begin with and when the A was discovered, it drained what was left. DO THINGS THAT MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. IF YOU DON'T, THE CHILDREN WON'T FEEL GOOD EITHER. TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND KEEP IT MOVING.
Don't compare the inside of your life to the outside of hers
It does sometimes feel like they have zero consequences but really, how empty her life must really be if she has a new man every month. That says to me, she's incapable of a real relationship, only shallow empty lustfests...when thing's get real, she trades them in. I too felt like ow suffered none but.I doht know what really goes on in her life, only what I know from the surface. I also didn't know about SI on DD and text ow
trying to make her understand what she did to my family...she doesn't give 2 f**ks about me or my kids. Keep posting when you feel the need, it does help.
Welcome to the club
[This message edited by Angel177 at 7:50 AM, August 16th (Saturday)]
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