Google Kubler-Ross stages of grief. Very similar to A recovery stages. The time line generally spoken of here is the A time line provided by the WS.
Your H should be experiencing grief along side of you. If you do not see this in him, maybe his efforts are just to appease you and not a true acceptance of his A and its effects on your M. Problems can exist when grief healing moves at different paces for individuals, much as what happens between siblings when a parent dies.
I am afraid your healing and timeline is stuck due to your H and his ambivalence toward your M. Until he is all in, you will not move forward.Me 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.